The Big O, coming, getting off...no matter what you call it, you want it. And lots of it.
For some people, that's easier said than done, and for most of us, orgasms are pretty mysterious. Some women have never even experienced one at all. If that's you -- or if you just want to experience that pleasure more often and faster -- then check out this latest installment of MomEd: In the Bedroom.
Dr. Logan Levkoff and her fellow sexologist Megan Andelloux deconstruct the orgasm: where it comes from, which kind is best (hint: any kind is the best!), and how to have more of them. Read on for their answers to your questions, and check out the video below.
First of all, what causes an orgasm, and where do they come from? An orgasm is simply a release of built-up sexual tension in the pelvic region. And they can come from anywhere -- nipple stimulation, clitoral stimulation, or vaginal intercourse.
Which kind is best? Whatever kind you're having. There's a tendency to qualify them, but as Megan points out, then people think that what works for them is wrong or not as good as the sex someone else is having. What works for your BFF might be boring for you -- what matters is that you're getting pleasure from what you're doing.
So. Um. Vibrators? Women worry that a vibrator will somehow wear out their genitals and they won't be able to have an orgasm from touching or sex. Not true...think of them as the microwave of orgasm! They can get you where you're going a lot faster.
How do I get me some of that? Realize that what we minimize as "foreplay" is, for many women, actually what makes us come. If vaginal intercourse does it for you, awesome; if it doesn't, spend more time on the preludes. In practical terms, Megan suggests rocking your hips, making noise, and just plain fantasizing.
Why isn't this working for me? Many conditions or the medications used to treat them can have less-than-awesome effects on your ability to have an orgasm. Diabetes, multiple sclerosis, pelvic trauma, and antidepressants can all sap your libido, so talk to your doctor if you are having trouble.
For more tips on making your life more pleasurable, subscribe to CafeMom Studios on YouTube.
Are you having enough orgasms?
Image via CafeMom Studios
Do it yourself
Concierge service through your credit card