Sex Confession: My Husband Wants to Try Kinky Things & I'm Afraid

Say What!? 44

blindfold“Sex Confessions” is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Today's sex confession comes from Sue*, a 20-something married mom of one. She says she's in a great marriage, her husband is a terrific dad, and the sex is better than good. Only problem is that her man suddenly has an interest in getting kinky -- the kind of kinky that Sue doesn't think she can get down with. And now she's freaking out wondering where he is getting these wacky ideas and if she should go against her gut and give them a try. Read on to hear more about Sue's conundrum directly from her.

About two months ago my husband decided he wants to have anal sex. We have never had anal sex! I have always been very opposed to the idea of something going into something that typically has gross things coming out of it, so it was always hands off (and penis out) of my butt. This isn't news to my husband as we talked about it maybe once when we were dating and he knew I was not into it at all. It was never brought up again until June ... and we've been married for five years, so it's been a long time.

I turned him down when he wanted anal. But then the following week, he asked if we could try out sex toys. SEX TOYS?!?! We have never used anything except lube, so I was very taken aback by his request. What the heck?! Anal, then sex toys. Where is he getting this from. I said no to that, too.

Then a few weeks after that, he asked if I would tie him up, blindfold him, and have sex with him like that. Oh and he wants me to be blindfolded, too. No! No! No! No! No! This is not my thing! I will admit that I love vanilla sex. We have always had what I thought was the greatest vanilla sex. We have orgasms! We laugh! We have sex quite often, too. Why does he want to ruin a good thing?

He also is totally fine when I say no to him, but three new sex requests in two months are more than he's ever asked of me in this department ever. So I'm wondering what in the heck is going on with him. Why this sudden urge to kink it up? I asked him, of course, and he just said why not? Hmm. Why not? Why not? I don't know the answer to that ... except that I'm afraid. I'm afraid if I start doing these things he wants to try, he will always want to kink it up and we can say goodbye to our awesome vanilla sex that I am more than satisfied with. In other words, I don't want to fix what's not broke. But then again, even though he says he's totally satisfied, why is he asking for change?

What advice would you give our confessor? Should she try the kinky sex? Or talk to her husband more to find out what's going on?


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*Name has been changed.

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