Masturbation Is the Secret to a Happy Marriage

fire worksMarried women who masturbate need to stop feeling guilty. The fact is, married or unmarried, masturbation is one of the best things women can do for themselves, their health, and their sex life. So vibe away, ladies. You aren't ruining your marriages, you are only making them hotter.

The fact is, self-pleasure is one of the most important differences between men and women. Men are very open about masturbation while women hide it away as if it's shameful. It's not.

One of the most important things a woman can do for herself is learn what she likes. So why are women so afraid of it or thinking it will hurt their marriages?

In an informal poll of male friends, I can assure you ladies, men LIKE it when you know what you are doing. They like it when you can tell them how long on the button and how long off. They like when you know how hard to push and how to move to get yourself to your peak.

You don't find those things out unless you play with yourself. Women aren't all made the same and there is nothing wrong with figuring out how your body works so you can show it to your man.

Some worry that masturbation will stop them from enjoying sex with their husband or that their clitoris will go numb (yes, I have heard this). Well I have news for you. It's the opposite, in fact. More masturbation means the clitoris is more orgasmic, which means more sex, ladies! Seriously.

So get out of the "I can't" mode and get in the "yes, please!" mode. Your husband will thank you and your sex life will thank you. More orgasms are better for your complexion, your health, and your general demeanor. So don't be afraid to touch yourself.

In the end, you are doing it for your husband, too.

Do you get squeamish about masturbation?


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fleur... fleurdelys3110

It is also possible to incorporate your boyfriend/husband/SO in your masterbation. My boyfriend loves to watch me do it, it's the best kind of foreplay! If only so many women weren't so self conscious and worried about being made fun of. Chances are, your man will think it's the hottest thing he's ever seen! It saddens me when women let self-esteem or self-image issues get in the way of their sex lives.

tifferie tifferie

No. But in cafemom world, it's one of the 7 deadly sins. They even go as far as forbidding their husbands from it. Smdh.

wjbra... wjbrady2011

My husband doesnt want me to.. Not for religious reasons. I think because he wants to be included. He doesnt do it.. I wouldnt Care if he did but he doesnt.

Laura Jerpseth

I don't do it. I'm not religious, but it seems a little nasty to me. Then again, I am only 14 years old.

nikol... nikolita87

I think it's normal and all, just so long as it's in moderation. It shouldn't replace your husband and having a healthy sex life together as a couple, to me, is more important.

nonmember avatar LizzieBorden

The clitoris will go numb? In 2012 in America are women really that dumb and ignorant? It's called google

4cadi... 4cadillac

Thanks 4 the laugh lizzie. I used 2b squeamish but after a few tries its not so bad. My future hubby brought me 3 *boyfriends* 2 keep me company while he*s long distance driving. They collect more dust than being used but they r there wen i need them.

nonmember avatar liz

I never used to do it, but after my second marriage my husband bought me my toy and encouraged me to try it. He created a sexed crazed monster because I use it every chance I get. It's imperative that you create the right kind of environment though... like soft music, dim lighting,etc....its important to be relaxed. LOVE IT!!

nonmember avatar jeff

Wow, I find it sad that women (or men) dont masturbate. It is your body, enjoy it !

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