“Sex Confessions” is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Today's sex confession comes from Jess*, a late-30s married mom of one child. She has no interest in sex. At all. Ever. She says it has nothing to do with her husband -- it's all her. After she had a baby, her sex drive completely went away. She thought it would come back eventually, but it's been a few years and still no desire. She's worried about how to tell her husband. He has to know she isn't interested because they rarely get it on, and when they do get frisky, she thinks he can tell her mind is elsewhere. Read on to hear what Jess has to say.
I don't want a divorce. I love my husband. I just don't want to have sex with him. Or anyone for that matter. I just don't feel sexual. My mojo is gone ... but to be honest, I never really had a big desire to have sex. The most my husband and I had sex in a week was twice. Back when we were dating. Compared to other people I know ... that is nothing. Now I think we had sex twice in the past year.
The total loss of sex drive did happen after I had our son. But he's a toddler now and the tiny bit I did have has not returned. I'm worried what my husband thinks. I turn him down for sex all the time. And he doesn't complain. Which only makes me love him more and also makes me sad for him more. Because it's clear he loves me that much that he doesn't make a big fuss about it. Though there are times I worry that he is getting sex elsewhere. And you know what? I don't care if he is as long as he doesn't leave me for that person and it's just for sex ... I think I'm okay with it. Maybe. I can't believe I even think stuff like that!!
It's just all so weird to think about. I don't want to think of my husband being with another woman, but I know he has desires and he deserves to have them met. I just have no interest in meeting them myself. I highly doubt he is having an affair though -- he's probably just masturbating every chance he gets.
I know I need to talk to him about it. About my lack of desire. Maybe I should see a doctor. Get some sort of libido enhancer or something. But my lack of interest in sex extends to my lack of interest to even want to try to have sex ... or talk about it. I wonder if I'm alone in this? I can't be the only woman in the world who doesn't care if she ever has sex again, can I?
What advice would you give this confessor? Can you relate?
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