Sexting Doesn't Make You a Pervert, As It Turns Out

girl on phoneDespite what you might think, this study was not, as far as I could tell, funded by Anthony Weiner, Brett Favre, nor Jesse James. Purportedly, it's the University of Michigan who looked into the sexting behavior of over 3,400 men and women between 18 and 24 and discovered that sending titillating texts is, believe it or not, normal. It's just something that's become part of the dating lexicon in the '10s, and the researchers contend that sexting isn't a sign of sexual deviance or some warning of psychological problems, nor is it linked to risky sexual encounters. Sexters were not more likely than non-sexters to sleep with more people or have unprotected sex.

Sexts, as it were, are, like, OMG, NBD. (That's "oh my god, no big deal" in text language.) So all this time we've been overreacting for nothing. Quick! Take a titty pic!

I guess it's when sexting is used for cheating purposes (ahem Weiner, Favre, James) -- that's when it gets dicey. I would think that the majority of sexting's bad rap comes from cases where people are seeking attention and/or a good romp in the hay from someone other than their partner or spouse.

I guess when I think of sexting, cheating and criminal behavior come to mind first, but maybe that's because I read too much of the Internet and enjoy a political scandal as much as the next guy. Then there are those awful stories of teen girls sexting with the wrong guy and then yada yada yada her amateur nudie pics are all over Facebook and she's shipped off to boarding school in the Andes.

But who knows, it sounds like the research is saying there's a healthy, fun side of sexting. If all this risque messaging is normal if you're relatively young and unattached, or if you're messaging the person you're, gasp, in a relationship with, then hell, maybe we should all clog in the airwaves with some genital pics. Sounds really hot when I put it that way, doesn't it?

What are your thoughts on sexting?


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fleur... fleurdelys3110

Another great way to sext is not through pictures, but through words. That way, there's no risk of any pictures falling into the wrong hands. Personally, I love sexting. My boyfriend and I do it all the time. Its a great way to spice things up when you're not together.

the4m... the4mutts

My SO and I do it quite frequently. Sometimes he works late, and when he gets home, he's tired. Plus, I'm tired from wrangling 4 kids alone all day.

Its a great way to get in the mood, so that 2 tired people can enjoy a quickie without exausting themselves trying to work eachother up.

I keep several dirty pics on my phone too. Just to send them to him randomly. He likes it, I like it, and if for some reason they ever end up online, then thousands of people will like it too haha

Water... Water_geM

people actually thought it was linked to deviant behavior?its really no different than sending someone a racy email.

Water... Water_geM

and not all sexting is pictures..when i think seting i think 

*says in monotone voice*oh baby i want to bang you hard

PonyC... PonyChaser

please. People have been sending "love letters" to each other since the dawn of time. Why is it all of a sudden such a big scandal when it's done with the latest technology?

kisse... kisses5050

You should read some of the historic love letters sent  back and forth!!! "do not bathe upon my return i wish to have your cunt natural and wild"  that was from the Revloutionary War!

nonmember avatar Bettyboo

Or as Napoleon reputedly sent to Josephine "Je reviens en trois jours, ne te laves pas" "I'm returning in 3 days, do not wash" Obviously a man who appreciated how his woman smelled naturally :) so, we've sent dirty messages for a long time, all that's changed is the speed they get there! and that's mild compared to what James Joyce was writing to his wife Nora!

Water... Water_geM

that's skeevy kisses..

king henry liked to talk about boobs..he liked them small.

nonmember avatar snyder

sexting kids is one thing but adults another.depending married,single,widowed,etc i speck for married if u come across the possibility your spouse more then likely did and does and you look at the time frame not yesterday but years where your memories are grimm it is more then likely infidelity has and maybe occuring in other words find someone you can trust and is only into you

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