How Many Times a Week Should You Be Having Sex?

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speed humpPsst. Can I ask you something? On average, how many times a week do you and your spouse do it?

If you're married, chances are you've either been asked this question by another mom (or dad), or you've asked it yourself. My inside sources tell me that it's all women seem to talk about when they get together. Guys talk about having sex, while women talk about the number of times they have to have it.

Studies vary all over the place, but on average it seems married couples have sex one or two times per week. Obviously, age comes into play too. Twentysomething newlyweds are going to be bopping non-stop like jack rabbits, while Grandma Doris and Grandpa Earl might be to afraid to even kiss each other for fear of breaking a hip.

But the real question isn't, "How much sex are married couples having weekly?" Nope. Instead, it's really, "How much sex should married couples have weekly?"

Chances are you'll get a very different answer from men than from women. Guys will respond with a simple, "Yes, please" (meaning as much as is humanly possible). Most women, on the other hand, will say once or twice a month. Heck, some women may even offer up negative numbers.

Clearly there needs to be a compromise. With 24 hours in a day, there's plenty of time to sleep, eat, and get some errands done. That easily leaves room for three or four romps in the sack a day. Roll that out over six days and you're looking at roughly 20 times a week.

Hold the phone. Back up the truck. Say what? Yeah, I know what you're thinking. Six days, not seven? Oh, that's not what you're thinking. Well, regardless, there's I reason I suggest six days of sexapalooza, rather than seven. 

With distance, the heart grows fonder. It's true. Or to put it more simply, if we take one day off to rest up, we'll be hornier than a triceratops, ready to go for six days straight. It'll also give us a day to relax and recharge. Just make sure to stock up on plenty of Gatorade.

How many times a week do you have sex with your spouse?


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kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

Lol we think if we get it in more than once in a week we have done good.

bingo... bingogurl

haha Not even once a month! We're lucky if it happens less than 6 months at a time.

Stacey Sanders

About the same as KJbugs-we usually do it twice on weekends.....but my hubby is on some new medication and its been over a month-I told him today he better talk to his Dr. about it because I refuse to go the next 60 years with nothing!

kebrowni kebrowni

maybe 4-6x a week, sometimes more (or less). my husband and I are in our late 20s, have been married almost 4 years and we have a 15 month old son.

nonmember avatar Sirens

We've been together for 6 years and dh and I easily go at it 4 times a week but less while I'm pregnant with my baby bump in the way. Maybe twice a week these days.

KRisty Pastrana

bahahah 0 wont happen not with two kids one is 4 the other 1 and they want all my attention. We still get it on as much as we can lol 5 times a week is our goal we always make that goal.

4cadi... 4cadillac

B4 he became a long distance driver it wuz everyday. Now its once a week.

navyw... navywife0204

Well, when he's home, as often as possible since he spends months at a time at sea!

Waag Waag

3-4 times a week at most if it was up to me it would be at least every day, but my husband never wants sex and complains that's all I ever want. I'm 21 and my husband is 23 we have been married 3 years on the 31st and he was gone on a year long deployment. We only dated a couple weeks when we got married but it seems like since day one he has never been interested. It really sucks.

Scott Davis

Im 38 wife is 35, been married 16 years and we are at least 3-4 times a week. Almost never on the weekend though, wife won't put the kids to bed until we are too tired.

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