Reports are streaming in that Kristen Stewart cheated on Robert Pattinson with Rupert Sanders, the married director of Snow White and the Huntsmen. People are shocked. They are horrified. They are angry and calling for her head. But, you know, they really shouldn't be.
As much as we hear about men who cheat (hello Ashton Kutcher!), in real life, outside of the glare of Hollywood, women cheat often. In fact, statistics show that women cheat as much, if not more than men. Shocking, but true.
In my own life, I have known far more women cheaters than male ones. The reasons are often complicated, too.
Sometimes women get married too young and they feel as though they missed something. Sometimes women feel under-appreciated by their spouses and want attention. And sometimes they just want to have sex. Shocking, I know.
Whatever the reasons women cheat, they do it a lot. If Stewart cheated on Pattinson, then it isn't nearly as crazy as it seems. Sure, we can all ask what the HELL she was thinking, but it shouldn't be with amazement that a woman would cheat. They do it all the time.
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Sure, Pattinson is sexy, but Stewart is only 22. Maybe she needed to play the field more before settling down. Maybe 20 was too young to find her forever man.
As troubling as it is that a 22-year-old cheated on her boyfriend, a much MORE troubling aspect of this is the married man who cheated with her. Rupert Sanders is a married father of two. What was HE doing? It's one thing to cheat on your boyfriend, but it's a whole other ballpark to cheat on a wife.
As we vilify her and rake her over the coals, it seems smarter to look at him. What could a man like that have been thinking? He is in his 40s. Was it worth it to break his wife's heart over this? To break up his family?
Stewart may have cheated, but her infidelity was far less awful than her paramour's. So maybe the lesson here is that woman AND men cheat, but men do it in a much bigger -- and more painful -- way. Or maybe they are just two cheats who deserve each other.
Are you shocked by all of this about Kristen Stewart?
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