Let's take a pop quiz. Your husband cheats on you -- perhaps numerous times. You still love him, but you decide, for the sake of your pride, sanity, and your children, to divorce him. Eight months later, you discover that he is dating another woman. And that woman happens to be someone he has been friends with for many years. A woman you knew as well. Do you a) feel devastated and betrayed, or b) shrug your shoulders, have no feeling about it whatsoever, and quickly move on? If you're Demi Moore, you're supposed to have no other option than B -- at least according to the geniuses on the Internet.
Rumors have abounded for months that Ashton Kutcher has been dating his "old pal" Mila Kunis. They've known each other for over a decade, having once been costars on That '70s Show. Predictably, both shot down the rumors -- especially Mila, who called them "absurd," and "crazy," and said, "We're friends, that's it!" Good thing Mila isn't running for president, because she has just been caught in what is known as a BIG FAT LIE.
Recently, Mila and Ashton were caught kissing on a balcony during a party for Ashton's new movie, Jobs, about the life of Steve Jobs. Didn't seem like a "friend" kiss either. And now Demi is said to be horribly wounded. Said a source to RadarOnline:
Seeing photos of him kissing another woman is too much for her to handle, it's like having her nose rubbed in it time and time again ... Each time Demi hears about Ashton and Mila it breaks her heart.
I've read a lot of comments on this story, from various media outlets, and most of them go like this (real) one:
I thought they were divorced? Why would she care who he is seeing now? Anyway, he was immature when she married him and 15 years younger.
Now we get to the crux of the matter. People have no sympathy for Demi because she married a younger man, and therefore should have "known better." As if Ashton didn't somehow realize he was marrying a woman older than himself.
Lots of women everywhere are involved with or marry younger men. In fact, in Hollywood, it's downright common. Courteney Cox, Jennifer Lopez, Kathy Griffin, Katie Couric, Sam Taylor-Wood. And yet Demi has gotten more hate about it than anyone. Maybe because it's Ashton? Because so many young women want him? Or is it because Demi looks 20 years younger than her age? What? Haters, enlighten us.
At any rate, no one seems to squawk when Alec Baldwin, 54, marries Hilaria Thomas, 28. Or Demi's ex, Bruce Willis, 57, marries Emma Heming, 34. That said, age difference has nothing to do with how long it takes a heart to heal. Those who think Demi should "get over it" have either never had their hearts broken, or they get over these things faster. Good for them. Not everyone is the same. Anyway, these are probably the same people who remain outraged that Jen Aniston was dumped by Brad Pitt -- seven years later!
Let Demi grieve. Let her feel betrayed. Let her have her own schedule of recovery. Just as, hopefully, you are allowed to have your own schedule when and if the day comes when someone rips your heart out.
How long does it take you to recover from heartbreak?
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The only problem Demi has is the media. Many people are devastated beyond reason and act crazy when dumped and cheated on by the love of their life. The big difference is everything she does is reported and picked apart . . . just what someone needs when they're trying to survive and sumount a very difficult time. My heart goes out to her.
I feel for Demi. It is devastating and heartbreaking to have to watch the one you loved and thought you would spend the rest of your life with move on and find new love. I support her 100%. Although, there is nothing she can do about it, so the best thing she can do, is ignore it, and try her best to move on. She will find love again, it's just a matter of time. I mean, look at her, she's gorgeous!
And yes I would probably react the same as her. 8 months really isn't much time at all.. she's still healing.
I understand Demi probably more than most. My lover is 20 years younger than me, I will be 43 next week and and he is 23. We have been together for 4 years and during this time, we have broken up under the pressure from our 'friends' who stressed that he needs to date younger and me , older. We both tried. But the spiritual connection and the physical passion..the kind that grows with time, was not there. That feeling of KNOWING you have found your home in someones arms cannot be duplicated or matched just because that person is in your age bracket. And so four years and one daughter later ( and another one on the way), we are engaged. Never to leave each other again...
Those times when we tried to move on...there are no words to describe the hurt. Only the person who feels it knows. I sympathize with Demi, like her I don't look my age, and everyone has an opinion. You described them best when you called them haters. lol, I really enjoy CafeMom!!!
Demi needs to move on it Ashton found love in her daughter's arms .. then who knows maybe the best for them both
Poor Demi.
I could have predicted this from the start. Ashton woke up and realized he was 35 and married to a women who is almost 50 (even though she looks good for her age). Maybe he wants kids of his own and she's too old. Demi has the right to be hurt, everyone hurts when their marriages fall apart, but it sounds like more is going on based on the stories I've read about her daughters distancing themselves from her.