10 Ultimatums You Should Never Give -- or Give In To

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It's tempting when you really really really REALLY want your partner to do something to issue an ultimatum. It helps to feel like you're doing something to get back that control you're missing and, hopefully, have your partner be able to give you what you want.

Here's the problem with ultimatums: they rarely work. In fact, relationship ultimatums account for a good amount of breakups. And, in the rare instance your partner gives in, do you really want to know that he or she did so just to appease you?

Here's a list of ultimatums you should never give -- or give in to.

1) I want a ring or we're over.

2) If you don't date me, I'll spread a rumor on the Internet that you have VD.

3) Why can't you do the chores like I want you to? If you don't start, I'm going to stop picking up after you.

4) If we can't talk about our feelings openly, we do not need to be in this relationship.

5) If you don't have sex with me, I'm going to find someone else who will.

6) We cannot continue dating if you don't change your religion to be the same as mine.

7) If you don't agree to spend most of your time with me, I'm going to show up at Guys' Night.

8) If you buy that new car, I'm going on a shopping trip to Prada -- with your credit card.

9) If you want to have sex with me again, you'd best be buying me some fancy jewelery.

10) If you can't be bothered to let the dog out in the morning, I'm going to make sure he pees on your pillow.

What are some other great ultimatums?


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breakups, commitment, dating, divorce


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pollo... pollopicu

Could this article be anymore anti-feminist?

jharr... jharris109

WOW talk about 10 things no one should ever say!! Seriously, anyone who says things like this needs to GROW UP!

CPN322 CPN322

It's hilarious to me that people don't get that articles like this are a joke(though I must admitt the first one I ever saw on here I did take a bit seriously, but I was honestly having a bitchy day). No woman who wants a healthy relationship would ever say those things. Gave me a good laugh :)

the4m... the4mutts

I know this author writes a lot of "fluff" blogs, that are usually intended to be funny, but I can't tell if that's the case with this one or not.

I've done #3 & #4. They are true. If you can't communicate, why

bother being in a relationship? And chores aren't just MY job. I won't pick up after a man. If his clothes don't get in the hamper, I'm not washing them, period.

Those seem to be common consideration type things, that could potentially end a relationship depending on the personalites of the people involved.

Erinly Erinly

Haha I ALWAYS threaten to have the dogs pee on his stuff!! But he knows I'm only kidding....or am I...:)

PonyC... PonyChaser

Mutts is right - I haven't given an "ultimatum", but I HAVE stopped changing the toilet paper roll. Honestly, the man seems to lack the basic ability to replace the roll when he empties it. I have my own "stash" in my cabinet so when I see the roll is empty, I'm not stuck without. This is after 15+ years of constantly asking, requesting, cajoling, joking, pitching temper tantrums, you name it, about the subject. He simply refuses. So I will not do it either.

If you are not willing to make a basic effort, both with household care/duties/chores, or with maintenance of the relationship, why would you be in it?


Off topic;but,is that a man or a woman in the pic?

nonmember avatar HS

Thanks, Prima. I wanted to ask as well but was too afraid. What IS that? lol!

Janet Coleman

I think that is a woman >.> But don't quote me on it.

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