8 Tips for Dating an Older Man

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Dating an older man can be a tricky line to walk. You may be a generation apart, you may be seen as a "gold digger" whether or not the dude has money, and you may find some of your friends like to tease you about dating "Mr. Wilson."

What none of them know is this: there are some definite advantages to having a relationship with an older man. Here are some tips for dating an older Mr. Right.

1) Instead of seeing the generational gap as a drawback, think of it as a learning experience. See what you two can teach each other.

2) Focus on the things you have in common rather than the things you don't.

3) Material assets don't make someone date-able; personality does. If he's got cash, awesome. If he doesn't, that shouldn't be something that would matter any more than if a guy your age didn't have money.

4) Remember that being older means being more set in your ways (probably), which means that if you're getting into a relationship with a guy who's older than you, don't expect to change him. (This should be a rule for ALL relationships.) 

5) Being around his kids may be awkward, especially if they're close to your age. Best to let him handle getting them used to the idea of you rather than foisting yourself upon them.

6) Just because he's no longer a horny teenager humping anything in sight doesn't mean that he won't be satisfying to you. While older men may experience a decrease in sex drive, he will have more experience, which can mean that he'll make sure that you're "taken care of."

7) Keep an open mind going into it. Just because he's older doesn't mean he can't be spontaneous or fun in bed. He is who he is, and if you like that? Be open to him.

8) Learn to deflect the judgment of your friends. If they're teasing you about dating an "old guy," tease them back about dating young losers (or whatever their type is). And if the teasing becomes hurtful? Tell them so. Real friends will be happy for you - no matter what.

Have any other tips for dating older dudes?


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mande... manderspanders

My husband is 8.5 years older than me.  The men my age are all superficial idiots.  Older men just know how to take care of a woman...the way it was meant to be.  Guess I'm just old-fashioned.

KristyB KristyB

I'm 30 and my boyfriend is 44. We've been together for 4 years. I would not change a thing. We get along great, we have a lot in common, and he treats my kids like their his own. He is a fitness nut. Only eats healthy foods and works out 5 days a week. He's built like a pro wrestler. Most guys my age dont take care of themselves that well. The fact that he's more experienced in bed, always taking care of me, and not making everything about him is just icing on the cake!

brand... brandspanknnew

I am 22 and my boyfriend is 40. We have a beautiful daughter together and I love him more and more each day. We've been together 3 years. I wouldn't pick anyone else to spend my life with. He is extremely family oriented and absolutely loves out daughter.

MIA0223 MIA0223

Just don't think about the age. My husband of 7 years is 14 years older than me.

We honestly forget about the age gap until someone else brings it up.

It's not a factor in our marriage.

dixie... dixiechick2

My boyfriend of 9 1/2 years is 11 years older than me.

nonmember avatar Alyssa

I'm 28 and my husband is 44. We have a great relationship. I feel older, in part to my jobs as a police officer and National Guard soldier. I really don't notice a difference at all except when references pop culture (that's what Google is for..lol) and when he is stubborn.

nonmember avatar tanya

i love being with an older man. Me and my husband are 16 years apart but i can say no other man has ever treated with the respect and love that he does. Rarely we run into somebody who has ''that look'' but when we do i just laugh cause if they knew what we had they would understand.

nonmember avatar H

My husband is literally twice my age and I'm in my 30's. We just celebrated the birth of our first child. He's healthier, more mature, more intelligent, and much more capable than most guys I know at my age.

And the best part...he's old enough to be secure in himself and know what's important in life. There's no 'dick measuring,' which means I don't have to deal with someone desperately trying to be a 'man.' It's absolute bliss!

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