Sex Confession: I Got It On With My Boyfriend's Father

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kissing in shadow“Sex Confessions” is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Today's sex confession comes from Sandra*, a 30-something divorcee who has a secret she's kept for years. She had sex with her boyfriend's father when she was 22 years old. She recently told some close friends who offered her advice on how to let go of the guilt. Read on to hear more of her confession in her own words.

I'm not proud of the fact that I responded to my boyfriend's father's advances. I'm also not going to lie and say I didn't lead him on. I did. Very much and often. I was young and not very smart. The thing that is the worst is that I was in love with my boyfriend at that time. We are no longer together and not because he found out that I had sex with his dad. It was my guilt. I couldn't handle the lie anymore. And I've been living with it for 10 years. 

I regret it. But there is nothing I can do to take it back. If I could, I would. Like I said, I loved him -- my boyfriend, not his dad. And I haven't been able to have a good relationship since. I ended up meeting and marrying another man and yet I never stopped loving my ex. I got divorced after just two years of marriage. I've never tried to get back together with him because I knew in order to have a good relationship I would have to tell him about what happened with me and his dad. And to be honest, I would prefer it if I never saw his father again. I can't blame him though. It's just as much my fault as it was his, if not more.

I feel like confessing this will help me. One more step in putting it behind me so I can move on. And in case you were wondering, it wasn't worth it. That one moment ruined my life.

What advice would you give Sandra to try to overcome this?

 

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Water... Water_geM

she doesnt want to help him..she wants to help her guilt..admit to yourself you fucked something up and its never coming back to you...


 

Bunny Lee Wilson

Here's my question....if she's 20-something now and did this when she was 22, how was this 10 years ago?

Eric Valle

everybody needs to relax. She was horney the dad was horney they had sex. There is nothing wrong with her. There is nothing wrong with the dad. Get over this fantasy relationship with the boyfriend. She should have set him up with her mom or something like that.

Jennifer B Kinghorn

Advice... no, sorry there is no advice for this. Heres some home truths though, you are a whore. Plain and simple. I think you should tell the ex boyfriend, he deserves to know why he was hurt by you because hes probably wondering just what the fuck he did wrong to cause a break up...or hopefully hes not, and hes happily married to a lovely lady who you will never be you fucking lame slut. 

Ander... Anderbee28

Wow, all so quick to call her a slut and a whore when she cheated one time and feels horrible about it, even though it happened 10 years ago? Seriously, people?


Forgive yourself and move on. We all make mistakes, and yours could have been a hell of a lot worse. You won't have a functional relationship until you do, and as others have suggested, maybe seeing someone would help.

nonmember avatar scott

hahah wow all you commenters are ridiculous. I love how women enjoy putting other women down. like non of you commenters have ever done something others would consider "slutty". I know you all have your own secrets and promiscuous experiences that you arent honest about. So is it the resulting shame that allows you to put your peers down so quickly? I cant imagine someone coming to me and admitting their biggest secret, acknowledging how wrong it was etc, asking for advice/help, and me jumping at the opp to kick them when they're down.

To girl from the story. I think its time you let the guilt go. And also do you really still love him, or is that maybe a product of the guilt/situation. like he is the one guy you know you cant have bc of something you did. so you kinda jus imagine if you never screwed up things would be perfect. i had a situation where i ruined the relationship. and for years I missed the girl and was "in love" with her. I finally got a second opportunity and after a few months realized that the past relationship and the future was nothing like the fantasy i created in my head.

nonmember avatar The Truth

Don't ever speak to that family again as you'll only cause animosity. Go to therapy and take care of your mental issues there.

Obviously that guy would never want to be with you now

tammy... tammyc1106

Scott I agree you with you! These immature women commenting these nasty comments are probably the fat nasty stay at home moms who sit on the couch all day watching soap operas and eat bon bons while their husbands are out screwing a beautiful girl because you can't satisfy him. I am completely and 100% against cheating and think that this girl should just move on because what she did was not right and she will only hurt her ex even more by telling him. Now back to you nasty name callers it doesn't feel so good for someone to say nasty things to you like I did in this post does it? So before you sit around in your little "mom clubs" and  throw stones at someone why don't you take a look at yourself in the mirror and think of anything you may have done in your sex life that may have been questionable. Or are you all nuns that kept their legs closed tight until your wedding night? I highly fucking doubt it! This woman was asking for advice but all you could do was stoop so low  with all of the slut and whore name calling. Grow the fuck up

Brandy Foy

If the father was married then she should tell either his son or his wife because it's hardly fair for her to be in the dark. If he was single then keep your trap shut OR if you really need to get it off your chest tell him you cheated with an older man but for heavens sake don't tell him who

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