Sex Confession: I Got It On With My Boyfriend's Father

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kissing in shadow“Sex Confessions” is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Today's sex confession comes from Sandra*, a 30-something divorcee who has a secret she's kept for years. She had sex with her boyfriend's father when she was 22 years old. She recently told some close friends who offered her advice on how to let go of the guilt. Read on to hear more of her confession in her own words.

I'm not proud of the fact that I responded to my boyfriend's father's advances. I'm also not going to lie and say I didn't lead him on. I did. Very much and often. I was young and not very smart. The thing that is the worst is that I was in love with my boyfriend at that time. We are no longer together and not because he found out that I had sex with his dad. It was my guilt. I couldn't handle the lie anymore. And I've been living with it for 10 years. 

I regret it. But there is nothing I can do to take it back. If I could, I would. Like I said, I loved him -- my boyfriend, not his dad. And I haven't been able to have a good relationship since. I ended up meeting and marrying another man and yet I never stopped loving my ex. I got divorced after just two years of marriage. I've never tried to get back together with him because I knew in order to have a good relationship I would have to tell him about what happened with me and his dad. And to be honest, I would prefer it if I never saw his father again. I can't blame him though. It's just as much my fault as it was his, if not more.

I feel like confessing this will help me. One more step in putting it behind me so I can move on. And in case you were wondering, it wasn't worth it. That one moment ruined my life.

What advice would you give Sandra to try to overcome this?

 

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jharr... jharris109

I've made some REALLY bad choices in my life and what you have to do is learn to accept them, forgive yourself, move on and NEVER repeat that mistake again. While you shouldn't have done it, you did and there is nothing you can do to take it back, so now it's time to learn from it. There is no excuse worthy, no matter what. The thing is once you've dealt with it, you don't have to let it ruin your future relationships or your life. Next time you'll think before you act (hopefully) and you won't make the same mistakes.


PS- apologizing to the guy will just hurt him, if he doesn't know, then leave him in the dark.

the4m... the4mutts

I'm normally the last person to "slut shame". I feel women can bone whoever, whenever, and not be "sluts". But if you're in a relationship, DON'T FRIGGIN CHEAT! Everyone makes mistakes, very true. A mistake doesn't make you bad. But flirting with, then screwing his DAD?? Wow. You have daddy issues and need some fucking help.

Ps. I bet he already knows, and wouldn't give you the time of day anyway.

the4m... the4mutts

Oh, and to clarify, its not the cheating that makes you slutty. Cheating happens sometimes, right or wrong.

Its who you cheated with. That's disgusting.

nonmember avatar Sarah

The only reason you want to tell him is because you want to ease your guilt. Once again you are acting selfish. You may feel better, but you're just going to hurt him even more. Get some hardcore therapy and forget about him.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

It'd totally be in this girl's best interest to stay away from her Ex and his entire family. She could tear an entire family apart over her "guilt"....Move on, honey.

jalaz77 jalaz77

Some of you need to really read this article before you comment cause ya sound dumb...so I would say not to confess to the ex-boyfriend for something that was done a decade ago because it will make you feel better when you risk ruining the relationship your ex-bf has with his father now...don't drop a bomb like that now, it is selfish. You must not of loved him 100% at the time because you would have never been so flirtatious with the father and "give in to his advances" be honest there was no giving in, really. You did the right thing at the time by ending the relationship. It's been years let it go but talk to people you trust and maybe a therapist because it still bothers you now and it's not healthy to hold onto this anymore. 

alisa... alisabethjaimes

Not a good idea. You say you still love him, but there is no way you can ever have a relationship with him again, even disregarding the fact that he would never get back together with someone who cheated on him with his father. Just stay away and do not tell him or even attempt contact. Sorry but we all make mistakes in lives that we have to live with.



Reminds me of a guy, "John," that my mom dated for a couple years. John's dad married John's ex-girlfriend and had a kid with her. Creepy.

nonmember avatar steph

that one moment ruined your life? uhhh wtf? why would that ruin your WHOLE life??? ridiculous. get over it. there are worse things in the world.

nonmember avatar C

She said she wanted to confess...not necessarily to him. Just by saying something out loud to someone is confessing. Y'all are some name calling, not good enough to be bitches.

Yes, what she did was stupid and it has obviously impacted her in a way that she cannot have a "normal" relationship now. You think she doesn't feel bad enough?

Advice? See a therapist. Stop posting your laundry online so trolls can hurl stones.

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