It's been nine months since Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher divorced, but Demi may still be pretty bent out of shape about the breakup. According to not exactly air-tight sources in Now magazine, Demi's been "fuming" since she heard that Ashton was rumored to be dating former That '70s Show co-star Mila Kunis. She's reportedly sure this confirms that that Ashton was cheating with Mila "for years." Dun dun duuuuh.
The tabloid says Demi's been thinking of times when Ashton was "sloping off to-dos where Mila must've been." And even though Ashton has supposedly denied to his ex that anything is going on with Mila, it's kinda obvious from all the time they've been spending together that they're at least really, really close friends.
But say they are more than friends. And say they were fooling around behind Demi's back ... Is it really something Demi needs to be freaking out about now?
N-O.
This is seriously water under the bridge! Back when Demi and Ashton called it quits in November, massive rumors were swirling that the split had to do with his various infidelities. So what difference would it make if Demi were to discover now that he was getting with Mila while they were still married? If a guy is a cheater, he's a cheater. Finding out that he cheated more or further back or with a different woman isn't going to really change anything.
Oh sure, if it's true, she has every right to be even more pissed than she already was. But it's not like worrying about it and being furious over it now isn't going to do her any good. (Especially considering what her mental/physical state has been rumored to be like as of late.) Fixating on an ex is never healthy. By thinking in terms of "coulda, shoulda, woulda," "what if"s and "maybe"s, you're just setting yourself up for a neurotic downward spiral. What's done is done. They're divorced. It's OVER.
Of course it's easier said than done, but Demi -- and any woman who finds herself scorned -- would do much better to re-focus any energy spent "fuming" on getting over the past.
Do you think Demi has every right to be fuming about this now or needs to move on?
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Now that they are no longer together why does she care?
What will knowing it get her? Will it make her happy?
She is happy when she slings mud it seems. She had so much control for the longest time and now she doesn't. That is why she is so pissed off.
MIla and Demi are two stupid women competing for the same idiot. A good majority of women (like Demi and Mila) are driven by jealousy and therefore are attracted to men that are 'wanted' by other women. That's why Demi is going crazy over this and that's why Mila likes him despite the fact that she knows that he is not loyal neither a quality person. It's all about winning the competition and feeling that you have control of a man that other women want. What Mila doesn't realize is that sooner or later, she will be in Demi's place and maybe with a couple of kids that she will have to raise without a man to teach them proper principles and values. Only after a traumatic experience (like being cheated by a player like Kutcher) women realize that they are attracted to the wrong characteristics.
Get over it? Really?
My ex carried on with a colleague for 3 years before I finally had enough evidence/pain/self-respect to ask him to leave. In the process, there were, of course, a lot of people that he worked with that I was very friendly with that I never heard from again - not because of any animosity between us but because our connection was broken.
Two years after our divorce during cocktails after work, my ex' best friend (who works with him/them and is married to mine) joked with another colleague about the fact that if ex and mistress/girlfriend ever get married, she would have to go to that wedding with him because his wife would never go.
This woman, with whom I was very friendly for almost the entire duration of my marriage, told our friend that his wife and I just needed to "get over it, already". He, a very level headed man who did an AMAZING job of being Switzerland, lost his cool entirely on our behalf and told her that there was no "getting over it" when it's flaunted in your face, lied about and never apologized for. There's moving on. There's living with it. There's focusing your attentions on better, more important things. But there really is no "getting over it".