Women snoop. It's just written into our DNA. It's not just about being nosey. No. No. No. That is a gross over-simplification. We investigate, break down, discern. We have to get to the bottom of things. Basically, Sherlock ain't got nothing on us. It's a trait that serves us well, but there are times when we take our need to know too far. And that's usually when it comes to our husbands and boyfriends.
Case in point: Jools Oliver, wife of celeb chef Jamie Oliver, recently admitted that she constantly spies on her man. Basically, there is no such thing as privacy in Jamie's world.
"Yeah, I’ll check his email. I’ll check his Twitter. I’ll check his phone. Everything seems fine," she said. "He says I’m a jealous girl, but I think I'm fairly laid-back, considering."
Take note -- this is NOT normal ladies. It's a little too obsessive, don't you think? Though Jools certainly isn't the only woman out there using James Bond-type espionage to keep an eye on her man.
I know women that go through pockets, briefcases, check cellphone call lists, have their friends flirt with him to see how he reacts, the list of tricks goes on and on. I even have one friend who had her fiance tailed by a private investigator to be sure that he wasn't steppin' out on her. Honestly, if I were that worried, that untrusting of him, I don't think I could stay with a guy.
As cheesy as it sounds, if you don't have trust, you don't have much of a relationship, now do you? It would drive me nuts if I worried about him cheating every time he went out the door. If you can't trust him, cut him loose.
And if he's never actually done one thing to justify your crazy-pants paranoia, perhaps it's time for some serious self-refection. Bottom line: either he's the problem or you are. If it's him, it's time for a new man. If it's you, talk to a therapist or tune in for a couple of episodes of Dr. Phil for some sage, calming advice.
Do you think women take snooping on their men too far?
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