Here's How Your Husband Really Feels About Sex After Baby (VIDEO)

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Nothing, and I mean nothing, changes your sex life like the arrival of a baby. You know how you feel at the prospect of having sex after giving birth. It may range anywhere from petrified to 100 percent good to go -- and maybe both, along with every feeling in between. But how is your husband feeling?

As it turns out, his feelings are probably just as complex as yours are. The good news? He still finds you sexy. Yes, you, in the slightly-too-tight yoga pants and the milk-stained nursing bra. That's what Ian Kerner, author of The Big, Fun, Sexy, Sex Book tells sex expert Dr. Logan Levkoff in the latest episode of MomEd: In The Bedroom. Check out the video after the jump.

Now more than ever, though, the key to keeping your sex life happy is to communicate. He's waiting for a cue from you that it's okay to make a move. If the thought of intercourse makes you nervous, then it's okay to take it off the table and do other things to bring you both pleasure, but don't wait until you feel 100 percent ready for intercourse before being intimate. And if you need a sexual self-esteem boost, tell him that too; let him know could use some nice compliments to warm you up.

Date nights are super important as well. Just getting to be together, alone, as a couple is vital to the health of your relationship. One real mind-blower for me was that men use sex as a channel of communication. Neglect sex, and it's your emotional connection that will take the hit. 

Neither of our sexperts suggested this, but I'll tell you: if you can't afford a real date night or don't have a sitter, do a date night at home after the kids are in bed. Open a bottle of wine and sit on the patio and talk, snuggle up and watch a sexy, romantic movie, or have a picnic on the living room floor. Just do something to connect as a couple again and not as Mom and Dad -- and ban kid talk for at least the first hour! 

Check out the show for more invaluable tips on how he feels about sex after baby.


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EvaSa... EvaSamuel

We do date nights at home all the time. We order take out from our favorite place, drink wine and watch a movie. It's cheaper and we don't have to get dressed up. We both have full time jobs and so we're exhausted by Friday night!

nonmember avatar guest

Funny, that guy doesn't look anything like my husband.

Bonnie Ann

Sex is a great stress relief in general.  My hubs and I just had our second bundle of joy, and we never stopped date night; he's always been my best friend I can tell him anything, and vice versa.  So when I saw this on my news feed I was curious to see what the 'professionals' had to say on keeping a happy relationship, and I learned nothing new :)  But maybe this will help other couples in the end.... gl all

suziejax suziejax

i have never had a baby before with my current hubby :( I hope to some day soon


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