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“Sex Confessions” is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, and all will turn you on (well most). You might want to sit down for this.
Today's sex confession comes from a 40-something mom of three, who has been (mostly) happily married for 15 years. She's happy. She swears she is. But when it comes to sex, she is just happier with her vibrator. Here's what she has to say in her own words.
I love my husband. We've enjoyed a really great sex life for many, many years. But for the past couple of years, I have not been interested in having sex with him. Kissing? Love it. Snuggling? Love that, too. But sex? Actual in and out sweaty takes too long sex? No thanks! I have no desire to be with anyone else except my vibrator.
I still manage to have the obligatory sex with him every once in a while and I do it for him -- to make him happy, which does make me happy, too. But I have no real physical excitement from it. I use my vibrator for that. And I pleasure myself with it at least three times a week. My husband has no idea about any of this. This is why I feel guilty. Sort of.
I guess you can say that I'm faking it when I do have sex with him. But like I said, his pleasure does bring me pleasure. I just have to get off another way. And I have even tried bringing my sex toys into our lovemaking but he is sort of traditional and isn't into that at all. He feels like it means he isn't man enough. But the truth is, this is about me, not him. I just love the control of pleasing myself. The ease of it. The quickness of how fast I can get to orgasm. The sensations of when I do! It's all my own. My private bliss. I just prefer sex solo.
What do you think of this confessor's secret? Should she feel guilty?
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