A new survey from Undercover Lovers shows that 89 percent of those who cheat on their marriage never get caught. Sit with that for a moment. EIGHTY-NINE PERCENT. That is a staggering number, no?
Obviously, the source has its own reasons to promote cheating (it's a website for married people looking to score), but there is also probably something to this statistic. In fact, it says that more women than men get away with the cheating.
We know that cheating isn't good for people. We know they die sooner and they get more STDs. Maybe it's living with all the guilt of not getting caught? And the real question: Would you cheat if you knew you wouldn't get caught?
For me, the answer is HELL no. I am a guilty person and besides that, part of what is special between my husband and me is our openness. If I were giving it away to another man, whether he knew or not, it would ruin us.
It’s funny. Over the years, I have known far more women who cheat than men. Maybe it's because I was (until recently) still on the younger end of things and maybe men don’t start to cheat until later in life, but this still seems interesting.
It's possibly because men trust more. It seems like for many men, they assume their wife is faithful unless they hear otherwise. Meanwhile women have more suspicions and snoop more. Just my theory.
The reality is, those who don’t want to know their spouses are cheating never will know. There are many ways to keep oneself in the dark, especially when it comes to things we don’t want to know. But it's no great incentive to cheat to think of not getting caught.
After all, I don't stay faithful because I am afraid of getting caught. I do so because I love and respect my spouse and because I value what we have alone, just us. If I were cheating, it wouldn't matter if I got caught or not. It would be over.
Would not getting caught make you cheat?
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