Drinking & Cheating Could Leave You With More Than Just Guilt

condomsNeed yet another reason NOT to cheat?

If you don't die from the guilt, stress, or excitement, chances are you are going to come home with a nasty STD.

You might always carry a Trojan with you, but it's not likely you'll remember to use it. A University of Michigan study of more than 1,600 people revealed that unfaithful people are less likely to use a condom.

And not for the reasons that you think. Neglecting protection has more to do with your blood alcohol level than simply enjoying the feel of love with no glove.

The study, published in the June issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, concluded that when people have secret sexual encounters, alcohol is typically involved ... a lot of alcohol. Drugs too in many cases. That means they are not thinking as clearly and the usual precautions go out the window.

The same was not true of those who have a free pass to cheat. People in open relationships have safe sex more often, which means fewer STDs being spread around from that group.

Why the difference? I think some cheaters need liquid courage to go through with the betrayal. It's always been an excuse for why people do things they obviously shouldn't. But I have to say, this takes the definition of beer goggles to a whole new level. It doesn't just mean waking up to find an unattractive girl or guy laying next to you. Nope. The affects of that booze-fueled indiscretion could linger for a lifetime.

Do you think cheaters use being drunk as an excuse or explanation for their behavior?


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nonmember avatar Shelly

If someone is selfish enough to whore around and cheat, they deserve an STD. To answer the question, I believe alcohol magnifies true intent, and reveals who the person really is. An excuse? Hardly. There is NO excuse.

dirti... dirtiekittie

if you're stupid enough to drink so much you think it's "justified" your cheating, and then proceed to commit said act without using any form of protection, then you deserve the nasty STD.

nonmember avatar noway

Dirtiekittie ... while the cheater may deserve the STD, the faithful spouse who is oblivious to the cheating does NOT deserve to catch a nasty STD from the cheating spouse.

dirti... dirtiekittie

@noway - i'm not disagreeing with you. i said the cheater deserves the std, not the innocent bystander in the relationship. it doesn't change the fact that the cheater made a stupid decision (getting drunk enough to "justify" cheating) and then made an even bigger, stupider decision (not using protection). i'm not giving them a free pass at karma just because their innocent husband or wife might get the clap, that's the risk they take when they step outside of the bonds of their marriage. and like any other bad situation, there's often innocent parties involved that had nothing to do with it.

nonmember avatar fegirl

@dirtiekittie - but what if the std is deadlier than "the clap"? I work in healthcare and have come across hundreds of women who have contracted HIV from their spouses/mates actions. And it isn't fair that these women have to suffer a lifetime of illness because of someone else's few minutes of pleasure.

dirti... dirtiekittie

@fegirl - no, it's not fair. unfortunately, neither is life. is it fair that i am now stuck my entire life with herpes simplex 1 (that's oral, not genital for those not in the know) because my mom insisted that she was "the mother who loved her kids" and would kiss me and my sister anyway when she had an outbreak? nope, but them's the breaks, kid.


if life were fair, this wouldn't even be a topic of discussion because cheating would be a non-issue.

CPN322 CPN322

What does the spouse not deserving an STD have to do with anything?? That wasn't the question.....and life isn't fair.


I've made mistakes and treated people in ways I would never imagine under the influence of alcohol. By no means do I think my "true self" came out. In actuality, I am an alcoholic and should stay the hell away from anything with alcohol in it. It makes me someone I am NOT and magnifies my flaws to ridiculous proportions. I do, however, not think that alcohol is any type of excuse for cheating and in that case, I don't think the alcohol alone makes people want to cheat or that it is an excuse. I think they already want to cheat and the alcohol makes it easier for them to do so without feeling guilty at the time. So yes, I do think they some cheaters use alcohol as an excuse but plenty of people cheat dead sober as well.

Victoria Sallese

I do not know that alcohol reveals the true person.  It simply removes the barriers that keep us from acting on our thoughts. ANd, be truthful, everyone has some weird thoughts. But our filters gently remind us that they should stay put where they are and not be acted on. Alcohol is not an excuse for cheating.  While we all think someone deserves the bad crap they get in life, not everyone deserves the bad crap in life.  Herpes and HIV are forever. 

t0vanal t0vanal

Wow dirtykittie, you are a heartless pos aren't you?  What if that was your child who was the spouse who was cheated on and now has aids ? Still deserved under the "life's not fair" playbook?  I didn't think so. 

אַריעל פּרינצעסין

cheating is wrong no matter the situtiaon. There are some cause when (for example) a man feels emotionally neglected from his wife and another woman comes along to make him feel better and he gets caught in the moment. Besides I believe if you have time enough to put on a condom, you have time enough to say "oh crap i should stop".

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