“Sex Confessions” is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, and all will turn you on (well most). You might want to sit down for this.
Today's sex confession comes from a 30-something mom from Virginia who has been married for 12 years. She has an awesome sex life with her husband -- they are just as kinky now as when they were dating. Maybe even more kinky sometimes. But it may be because of her very active imagination. She's married to a man and has never been with a woman, but sometimes she pretends that he is a she. Yes, one of her fantasies is to be with a woman, so what she does is creates a whole scenario in her mind that her husband is a woman during sex. Check out what else she has to say ....
I love my husband and I don't want to leave him for anyone -- man or woman. But I do love to fantasize that he isn't him -- that he is a she. It's a fantasy that is an all-day-long thing for me. Sometimes when I have a moment to daydream, I cook up a story in my head that I met a gorgeous woman somewhere and she flirts with me. It could be anywhere -- even a supermarket. So in my mind, I meet this hot woman in the grocery store, we connect, we flirt, we end up making out. And then back at my house. Then I'm back to reality and I wait for my husband to get home from work, dinner is eaten, and the kids are in bed. That's when I pick up that fantasy where I left off. Only when I feel my husband's lips on my body, I pretend they belong to her -- my fantasy lady. Everything he does is really done by her in my mind. I'm getting excited just thinking about it now.
I have never told my husband that I have pretended he was another person when we have sex. I'm not sure how he would feel about it. Maybe it wouldn't be as hard to deal with for him knowing it was a woman, but I don't ever want to make him feel insecure. Because he has nothing to feel insecure about. I love him. I love our sex life. I just like to role play in my head now and then.
Do you have this kind of fantasy? Should she tell her husband or do you think it's no big deal?
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I say tell your husband about it. Get someone to watch the kids for a night and have a threesome with anouther woman. I don't know your husband but most guys are into trying that kind of thing. And if you don't like it as much as you though you would then you don't have to do it again but hey now you know what its like. If you do like it that it can become something you and your husband do every now and then.
It's her call, but personally I think honesty is the best policy. If the tables were turned and it was her husband fantasizing about a particular thing, my guess is that she'd want to know about it. If they're as kinky as they claim to be, she shouldn't be worried by his reaction.
It might ruin th fantasy for her to share her thoughts, or to even try to act on it.
What if she tries it, and doesn't like it? Then her whole fantasy would be gone, and her sex life might suffer.
Everyone is entitled to their own dirty little secrets, and to privacy of their thoughts, as long as its not hurting anyone.
I think it would be hurtful for husband to hear that she pretends he's someone else in bed. It's one thing to have a fantasy going, but to actually tell your physical partner he's been replaced with an imaginary partner (and one that he can't even pretend to be), is just unfair.
It definitely ruins the fantasy. My husband actually gave me permission to fantasize about someone else and it totally stole the moment. Took me a while to recapture my secret thoughts.
Telling her husband really depends. A threesome is going too far if she values monogamy and I think telling her husband would be a bad idea, if that's the case.