7 Ways to End a Sexual Dry Spell With a Bang

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I don't know a couple who hasn't been through a sexual dry spell. Wait, I do, but I think she was lying about it, because, really, who hasn't been there? 

Sex may not be the most important part of a relationship, but it is important. Having a healthy sex life can be the difference between breaking up and making up (and that glorious make-up sex!).

So what happens when the well goes dry? What happens when you hit the dreaded relationship sexual dry spell?

Here are some tips to get THROUGH the sexual dry spell and into the promised land.

1) As with anything else in life, acknowledge that you have a problem. I don't mean that you have to go pointing fingers and shouting it from the rooftops, but the simple act of saying, "hey, we need to work on our sex life," can go far.

2) Make a plan of attack to jump-start your sex life and commit to it. This means that even if you're both tired after a long day, you still make time for sex.

3) Find the root of the problem and attack it. If nighttime sex is too much, try morning sex. Or pop home on your lunch break for a quickie.

4) Don't be afraid to mix things up. Take a walk on the wild side, step out of your comfort zone, and try something new. Take a chance on it! It may just pay off.

5) Be open and honest about your feelings about the dry spell with your partner. Make it a habit to use, "I feel" statements - this ensures he won't feel attacked when you bring it up.

6) Get out there and do something different. Tired of the same routines? I don't blame you! So try a change in latitude and see if that brings about a change in attitude.

7) Have fun together. Remember that life - and sex - are not such serious business. Your dry spell will end, you will get back on the same page, and in a couple of years, you'll remember how you guys got through it together.

What are some other tips to get you through a dry spell in your sex life?


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nonmember avatar LBoz

You can only have sex with the same person for so long. It's like eating the same food everyday. I just don't care about sex anymore, I'm over it. Blah

Shar330 Shar330

Yes I agree... especially when that is the only time you get attentio from your husband. I think after 20 years of heart and pain it maybe time to say goodbye to marriage

Mary Renner

My husband & I are both 40, been together 13 years and have 2 daughters. We have never had a dry spell and that's no lie.

Jason Rideout

The best solution to this problem is to avoid a dry spell in the first place: DON'T GET MARRIED.

Noah Zark

"The best solution to this problem is to avoid a dry spell in the first place: DON'T GET MARRIED."

But still have children, and then try to raise the emotionally-stunted little buggers in porveryt, while pretending it's "normal" that they never grow up.

nonmember avatar John D

My wife and I have been married for 41 years. She lost interest in sex about 15 years ago and has no interest in counselling or making any change.

So I could leave her, which I don't want to do or do what I did when I was 15. Visit Rosy palm and her five sisters.

nonmember avatar CELINA

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