“Sex Confessions” is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, and all will turn you on (well most). You might want to sit down for this.
Today's sex confession comes from a 20-something mom from Oklahoma who has been married for five years. Her mind doesn't ever shut off -- even during sex. Sometimes she has thoughts that are really sexy, but there are also times when she thinks about things she ashamed to admit. Until now.
I'd like to think I am a romantic. Even when my husband and I are having sex on our bed -- where we've had sex so many times before -- I fantasize. Sometimes I pretend we are on a beach and people are watching us or a fancy boat or even at the park during broad daylight -- you know, places we never have sex but I'm just pretending in my head. But then I also have those times where my mind wanders in directions that have nothing to do with my husband, anything romantic, or even sex.
There have been times I wrote grocery lists in my head while my husband was on top. I've thought about what plans I had during the week when we were doing it doggie style. I've even thought about what color I should paint my nails next. It makes me feel terrible -- that I'm sometimes not really there in the moment. Of course I don't have an orgasm those times, either, so no real pleasure. But I could never tell my husband this. Ever. It would crush him. And it's not that I'm not attracted to him sexually or love him any less -- it's just that my mind doesn't always shut off and while I do think about sex when I'm having sex with him sometimes, there are those other times that it's anything but.
I don't want it to overcome me and one day realize I am never enjoying sex and instead always thinking about things I shouldn't. That scares me.
Can you relate to this woman's confession? What advice would you give her?
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