15 Sure Signs You're Being a Clingy, Needy Girlfriend

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It happens sometimes.

We get insecure. Something trips our radar and we can't help but feel as though our guy is pulling away from us.

Problem is, the more you push your guy, trying to get closer, the farther he wants to be from you. Being an overbearing girlfriend is not sexy -- not even a little. It's one of the quickest ways to go from hot to not.

Here are some signs you might have a little bit of a clingy problem.

1) Every message on his Facebook wall from the last three weeks is from you.

2) When he doesn't text you back immediately, you begin to call him. Then his mother. Then his best friend.

3) You insist on reading his emails, texts, and IM conversations.

4) You have the urge -- and actually act on it -- to search his house, his car, and his wallet for signs that he may be unfaithful.

5) You demand that he not have any female friends -- even on Facebook.

6) You expect that every waking moment be spent together.

7) You crash guys' night out.

8) You crash all his family parties.

9) You're not TECHNICALLY his girlfriend, but you take over all of his household chores, take his laundry to the dry-cleaner, and make him lunches for work. Every day.

10) When he's not at his desk, you call the front office and demand that they page him. Just because you wanted to talk.

11) You never see your friends because you're always with your guy.

12) The very idea of not seeing your guy for a night makes you panic.

13) You're talking about weddings and baby names on Date Number Three.

14) He's become your hobby.

15) You want -- need -- his approval with everything you do in your life, from household cleaning products to the color of your toenails.

Have you ever been an overbearing girlfriend -- and what needy things were you doing?


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Stacey. Stacey.

 Ive had a clingy boyfriend but no one ever talks about those.

suziejax suziejax

lol Stacey! Very true lol

butte... butterflyfreak

Yep, I've had a couple clingy guys before. Funny thing that most people don't realize is that a lot of guys are way clingier than girls. LOL

Disney17 Disney17

I'll admit, I'm pretty clingy but I'm working on it!

LizB86 LizB86

I have also had a clingy boyfriend.  I'll never forget how he left six voicemail messages in an hour wondering where I was.  Ugh!

cocob... cocobeannns

Oh, no. I need my space. Never been clingy. I have had a clingy boyfriend as well. Ten calls in ten minutes? Is that necessary?

Stacey. Stacey.

yes, guys IMO are more needy than women. Ive had 20 missed calls from just going grocery shopping, Ive been accused of going places on my lunch breaks at work, I have had a guys friends call him to tell him they saw me out doing (insert something completely innoccent), Ive had a guy get mad at me for talking to my best friend in french (we took 6 years of it together in school), its ridiculous, and unfortunately I NEVER see articles about how having a nagging boyfriend is terrible, for some reason its always the womans fault!

nonmember avatar Missforth

I've known girls like that and guys too. My brother-in-law is the worst though. He's pathetic. His,now ex, wife couldn't go to the bathroom by herself if he was home. Even at our house for Thanksgiving, he'd follow her.

nonmember avatar A

My friend woke up from being drugged and found her boyfriend slicing her arm open to put a GPS tracking chip in her. He got it from a vet supply company website.

nonmember avatar Lord K

You all can thank the lack of parental discipline by parents to their sons for all then men all you commenters had for being clingy.

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