homeless manI just don't get why guys have so much crazy confidence. This hit me the other day when a homeless guy asked me for money. Let me just say, the panhandling is not the shocking part. This poor soul had dirty, tattered clothes, holes in his shoes, and missing teeth - my heart went out to him. As I reached in my purse for a dollar, he shared his hard-luck story about losing his job and being out on the streets.

But then, something totally unexpected happened. HE ASKED ME OUT! I was literally stunned silent. My first thoughts: "Where would we go? Who would pay?  Wait, do I look like I would say yes?"

Then it dawned on me, there is a bigger issue going on here. Dudes really don't buy into the concept that a woman can be out of their league. That is the only possible reason why a guy - who was definitely kind, sincere and seemingly lucid - would ask out a woman who just gave him her spare change. 

Unlike women, men never seem to question if they are good enough, smart enough, cute enough, thin enough. Why is that? Where does this innate cockiness come from when girls start out so much better at everything.

We learn to walk and talk sooner. We are more emotionally mature and infinitely more perceptive. Still, that unwavering confidence eludes just about over woman I know when it comes to dating. My gorgeous, single girlfriends spend days debating whether a guy really, truly likes them or how to craft the perfect reply to a flirty text. It's as though we naturally second guess ourselves when it comes to the opposite sex.

Not so with guys. And when I politely told this nice homeless fella I was married, he didn't even flinch. "Just my luck. Let me know if that ever changes," he said with a gummy smile. I wish more women - myself included - could be so self-assured.

What do you think? Are guys more naturally confident than woman?


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