'7 Days of Sex' Challenge Day Two: Gifts Are Like Foreplay, No? (VIDEO)

When you have been married nine years and together for more than 11, sometimes it's easy to take sex for granted. My husband and I knew that Lifetime's 7 Days of Sex challenge was not going to be easy. We knew it would require more focus and determination than we had been giving to sex in recent months. But we also didn't realize how good that can be.

Day two was a little better than Day one. Last night the challenge was issued to my husband. He was supposed to be "on top. Even though we were not taking this literally, I did give up control and let him set the tone. And he did not disappoint.

When we agreed to do the challenge, Lifetime offered us a beautiful candle, a few bottles of wine, underwear, money for date nights, and bubble bath all in the name of recharging. But my husband took it one step further.

He bought jewelry.

For whatever reason, my husband who hates earrings with a serious passion (don't ask) and generally dislikes spending any frivolous money, has a thing for necklaces.

Without delving too far into his turn-ons, let's just say that necklaces highlight the area of the body he most likes, so when I returned to the bedroom to find two glasses of wine and a pretty little box all wrapped with a silver bow, I squealed.

Keep in mind, we are not gift people. We decided long ago that all of our gifts to one another would be experiences. So we go ziplining and sky diving. We travel to Morocco and Paris. We take weekends away to various B&B's, but we rarely give gifts.

Plus, I am generally very hard to buy for. I am picky and finicky and he usually gets it wrong. Suffice it to say, I was happy. If the idea is to break out of old routines and see one another in a new way, I guess the smartest thing we could do is try new things and stop doing everything the way we always have. In that spirit, I loved it. And the bonus? I also like what he got (see the photo above). It is a multi-chain necklace with a little key that hangs down the center of my body. I will definitely wear it again.

The transition to sex was smoother tonight and if the goal was intimacy, there was more of that. We talked and laughed and kissed. We discussed a problem I was having with someone. Instead of rolling his eyes and making a disparaging comment about women and their weird social issues, he listened and advised me. Maybe it was because we made it our priority instead of discussing it in between trying to do a million other things.

All in all, it was a good use of a bottle of wine. This is getting a little smoother. Tonight's challenge calls for me to be "on top."

I have a little something up my sleeve. I can't wait to use it! Yesterday, I got to talk about the challenge with some people who were on Lifetime's show on Dr. Drew on HLN. See below:


This is Day One of the 7 Days of Sex Challenge issued by Lifetime TV. To see the rest, click here.

Are you taking this challenge? Would you?

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nonmember avatar Nicole

My husband and I are taking the challenge, but I don't think it'll change much. For one, our marriage isn't on the skids and for two, we already have a lot of sex. I'm having a very hard time relating to your daily recaps because there are things in your marriage that would never fly in mine. I would never say that a gift- any gift- from my husband was "wrong". I wouldn't be going to the gym twice a day and then using the excuse that I'm too tired for one on one time. I certainly wouldn't go into intimate time bringing along things that happened at work that day-- that business gets checked at the bedroom door. So while these recaps are an interesting read, I can't relate. I want to take a red pen and circle areas that are probably causing you issues in your marriage that aren't going to be fixed by sex, but by respect.

nonmember avatar Nicole

Awww, that came out much meaner than I meant it to. The general idea is still there, but I don't mean the superiority that came out in that comment. I'm sorry for that bit.

I do love the necklace, though!

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