'7 Days of Sex' Challenge Day One: Sometimes You Have to Force It

When you have been married nine years and together for more than 11, sometimes it's easy to take sex for granted. My husband and I knew that Lifetime's 7 Days of Sex challenge was not going to be easy. We knew it would require more focus and determination than we had been giving to sex in recent months. But we also didn't realize how good that can be.

Day one was last night and it came on a particularly bad night. My husband is sick. It was a Wednesday and both of us worked a full day. I had been up at 5 to work out and then back in the gym at 6 since I am doing double workouts as much as I can. I had also cooked dinner, straightened up the house, and done all the usual myriad things that come with having a home and family.

In short, we were exhausted.

By the time the kids were both fast asleep at 9:30, neither of us wanted to have sex. In fact, while he was putting the kids to bed, I fell asleep so it wasn't until he came into the room that I even woke up.

Then he was lying next to me, sniffling and clearing his throat and sounding miserable, which, instead of making me want to take care of him, only annoyed me. I am so nice. It's no wonder he loves me, right?

We lay in bed not wanting to have sex, but not wanting to cheat on the challenge on the first night, either. Great, this wasn't going to be as easy as we thought!

Finally, begrudgingly, we started. And quickly, it became very nice. Then it got even nicer.

We didn't have an all-nighter or even do much in the way of foreplay or cuddling, but it was very good for both of us, very satisfying and hugely stress relieving (for me). I found myself much more loving and generous with my husband after that.

I got him some Emergen-C and felt more affectionate and loving and sympathetic for how sick he is rather than just being annoyed with how loud he sniffles (I know, I am a jerk).

All in all, it was a successful first night. Tonight, the challenge calls for "man on top" and we are told we need to use something from the kit provided by Lifetime TV (it included a beautiful candle, a few bottles of wine, underwear, money for date nights, and bubble bath). What will he choose?

Only time will tell, but I am hoping it's even better than last night.

Do you ever "force" sex?

This is Day One of the 7 Days of Sex Challenge issued by Lifetime TV. To see the rest, click here.

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nonmember avatar Heather

Seriously if you're only having sex with your husband to fulfill some challenge you saw on TV and then needed to write an article about, noone cares. So glad you had boring sex with your sick husband. Gross. Please don't bore us with the details from the next six nights of your inconvenient, boring sex life.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

I worry about how my husband's and my sex life will change once child #2 gets here. Our oldest is 6 so the evenings are really when we get our quality time and I'm the first one to admit that he's left high and dry a lot of the time because I'm too tired, or sick (Im 6m pregs and morning sickness still affects me). I'm making it a personal goal of mine not to let our sexlife suffer because I know how important it is, not only to him, but to our relationship as a whole. Once we do "get started" most of the time, things fall into place quite nicely. I think its just keeping the motivation to devote the time for each other, rather than "forcing" it. 

linzemae linzemae

Wow heather! Don't read the articles then if you're so grossed out

nonmember avatar Heather

Linzemae - I never said all the articles on this site are gross. I said this article in particular was gross and boring. The article was about her having sex with her sick husband for the reason of being able to write this stupid, pointless article. It was vapid and a waste of my time to read. I hate how some of the writers on this site are just "fillers". There are some writers on this site who actually post worthwhile, meaningful, funny, genuine works. But when the entire article is contrived and forced, it's boring to read.

nonmember avatar EmmaFromÉire

Heather, nobody forced you to read this article. And i'm willing to bet that if you saw this in Cosmo, who often do similar things, you'd have absolutely no issue with it.

nonmember avatar EmmaFromÉire

And Sasha I think you're right. Sometimes it does take a shove more than a push to get you in the mood, but sometimes it can be better when you didn't think you'd be in the mood!

lalab... lalaboosh

Heather, this is The Stir. It's all vapid filler. Lol! Get over it!

linzemae linzemae

Like I said... Don't read it then!

the4m... the4mutts

"If you don't like it, don't read it" is a retarded statement. How do you know if you like it, if you DON'T read it?

I agree with Heather. This is a boring read, and gross to think about. Hopefully her husband didn't get snot on her, because that's all I can think about when I read this.

the4m... the4mutts

Ps. If my SO is sick, he can keep his face and penis away from me!

I have kids to take care of, and can't afford to lose the energy that even a common cold takes from me.

I will sleep on the couch or with one of my daughters if that man even thinks of coughing in the same room as me

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