You guys I can't EVEN with this news. According to Us Weekly, Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds are shopping for a house together in Connecticut. The 24-year-old Gossip Girl star and the 35-year-old funny man have been dating for six months and are evidently ready to take their relationship to the next level, which, whatever. Fine. Glad they're happy, buuuuut a house in Connecticut? Really? If I were them, I'd take things a little slower. Where's the fire? Going into real estate together can get messy, and fast. It's all fun and games in your brand new suburban home until one of you wakes up and realizes you're suddenly playing house with someone you barely know.
Six months of dating is not a long time. You're still in the honeymoon phase. Things haven't gotten real yet, and by real I mean complacent. Complacency is a part of any long-term relationship and it takes a lot of work to make sure you don't start taking your partner for granted.
Ease in a relationship and routine work for lots of people, but for some, it feels like they're trapped. That's why you have to wait to make big decisions until all the fun newness wears off, and you've discovered whether or not you're comfortable being committed and accountable. If you take things too fast, the resentment rushes in fast and furious, and before you can say "on the market," a real estate agent is telling you you need to paint the hallways before you'll be able to sell this thing.
Ryan might be more familiar with this scenario than he's willing to admit -- he dated ex-wife Scarlett Johansson for 12 months, got married, and was divorced 24 months later. The house he shared with her is currently for sale in Los Angeles.
Blake, on the other hand, is 24. She hasn't had too much time to figure all this stuff out, but if she buys a home together with Ryan, I'm sure she'll learn quickly what an adjustment it can be to move in with someone, especially for someone you've only known a matter of months.
I wish them the best (I'm a romantic, and a Proposal fan, at heart), but if they came to me for some less than sage advice, I'd tell them to wait. Have fun. Take time getting to know each other's ins and outs so that when you're ready to move in, you hopefully won't ever need to move out.
Do you think buying a house together after six months of dating is a bad idea? What's your experience been?
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