Bobby Petrino's Wife Has a Heartbreaking Decision to Make

bobby petrinoWe've learned a lot, maybe too much, about Bobby Petrino and Jessica Dorrell over the last week or two. We know all about the motorcycle accident, the texts, and the (oh, lord) yet-to-be released naked pictures. We know about the firing and the forced administrative leave; we know about $20,000 gifts. But there's one tidbit of info, one person, that hasn't really been discussed. Bobby Petrino's wife Becky has, to her credit and to most of our amazement, remained out of the spotlight. Who is Becky Petrino, and what the heck must she be going through right now? She doesn't deserve to be in this mess -- no one really does -- and what should she do now that she's unwittingly in the middle of her husband's sex scandal?

Unfortunately, there are other women who've been put in this terrible position before who Becky can look to for examples in her time of need. Hillary Clinton chose to stay with Bill, Larry Craig's wife, Suzanne, stood by her husband's side, and so did Eliot Spitzer's wife, Silda. If Becky decides to forgive Bobby, she wouldn't be the first magnanimous soul to stay in a marriage after public, and private, humiliation.

There is, however, one woman who comes to mind who made a choice to get a divorce after it was discovered her husband, the governor of South Carolina, was flying down to Argentina to be with his mistress when he said he was going to hike on the Appalachian Trail. Jenny Sanford did not attend the press conference when husband Mark admitted to his wrongdoing, and filed for divorce just a couple months later.

Whatever Becky decides, to stay with Bobby or to leave him, I hope she comes to the conclusion with clear eyes and a full heart. You can't lose that way. (Thanks, Coach T!) There are going to be expectations coming at her from all angles -- everyone will have an opinion about what she should or shouldn't do, but now's the time to look inside.

You can't follow Hillary Clinton's path because it "worked out" OK for her, just as you can't follow Jenny Sanford's lead because she was "better off" for it. There's nothing Becky and Bobby can do now but listen to their hearts and follow their own path. No one envies the position Becky's been put in, no one, and I think we all wish her the best. And if that means staying with Bobby or leaving him in the middle of the night, so be it.

What do you think Becky Petrino should do?


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black... blackwell706

I think she should be able to make a decision about her life without people asking this kind of question honestly.  Before I read this article, I had no idea he had a wife but I really didn't follow this story either.  After the last several adulterous stories, they all start to become a blur.  She should never be mentioned because she hasn't put herself out there to be tabloid, gossip column fodder.


Stacey. Stacey.

I dont know anything about this story as peoples love lives dont interest me. But all I cna say, is there is plenty of dick in the sea. if your man is giving his away to other people, it's time to find a new man.

demon... demons_kitty39

i think she will decide to do whatever she feels best and people need to keep their opinions about her choices to themselves, no one but her lives her life lets keep it that way!!!!

banging head into wall

kayhh kayhh

Personally, I would not stay with a man who cheated on me because I could never trust him again. But as a woman who believes in choice, she should make the choice that works for her and her family.  This is what happens when you are in the public eye--your life is out there for everyone to see whether you want them to see or not.  Unfortunate, but true.

Matthew Kennedy

surprising to me that the media and people are not challenging the parties' account of events; it is highly unlikely that Jessica was on the bike at the time of the crash; more likely that someone (fiance) ran coach off road after fiance walked in on coach and jess; maybe 20% chance that I'm wrong and she was on bike the way that everyone says

Elaine Laney David


grnsm... grnsmomma

If the people that live in the city this is going on in is already over this story, WHY is everyone else still talking about it?  Old news here in NWA.  Honestly, do you think this is the first time he's cheated?  No.  She's probably just mad it got out and now people like this are writing articles about her when she's trying to stay out of it.

nonmember avatar Gramalo

Leave them alone they started their lives together. God only knows what is or isn't right

People must not have enough going on in their own lives

nonmember avatar Susan

This is not the first time Petrino has cheated on his wife. The first occurrence was when they were in Atlanta, GA for Bobby's failed attempted to coach in the NFL. If she thought bobby would change she was highly mistaken. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

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