20 Signs He's a Keeper

Love & Learn 19

You've been burned before. You've dated the jackass and the player. You've been cheated on and you've sworn off dating. Until now. You finally find this great guy -- but you're scared. You're scared he's going to be just like the others. You're afraid he's not actually a nice guy, not really a keeper -- that he's just playing you.

Here are some signs that the guy you're digging on? Well, he's a keeper.

1) He puts you first. You. Not work, not his friends, YOU.

2) He puts your relationship first.

3) He thinks about the future -- and you're in it. 

4) You don't have to guess if he's going to show up for a date -- you know he will, because you can count on him.

5) Those goofy quirks you have that other people (including you!) find annoying? He finds them endearing.

6) He's willing to compromise in an argument. It's not about ego or who's actually right -- it's about finding a solution that works best for you. BOTH of you.

7) He does those small things for you that make your life that much sweeter, because he knows it makes you happy.

8) Your happiness matters to him. 

9) He supports your dreams and ambitions and encourages you to keep going when you're ready to quit.

10) He's there for you. Whether it's a good day or terrible, awful day, he's there for you.

11) He knows you have value -- and isn't afraid to say so.

12) He cares about some -- but not all -- of your hobbies, but supports all of them. Why? Because they make you happy.

13) He remembers those little things you tell him: how Aunt Bea loves the color blue and you collect sea glass.

14) He knows when to shut his mouth and be tactful. If you ask him a leading question (does my butt look fat in these?), he'll give you a tactful answer rather than the truth.

15) He's respectful of you, your boundaries, your needs and desires. He respects YOU.

16) He accepts you for you -- the real you.

17) He doesn't take life too seriously. Life isn't all work and no play -- and your partner should feel the same way. 

18) He takes the time he needs for himself, while making sure you never feel excluded from something.

19) He cares about other people, even if he's not always talking about it. 

20) He never makes a promise he can't (or doesn't plan to) keep. 

What are some other signs that your guy is a keeper?


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nonmember avatar KT

My fiance is every single thing on this list!!

Josh Kim

This is bullshit.

Ridin... Ridingsolo

19 is most Important. The way aman treats others in his life will show how he will treat you.

nonmember avatar Liz

While no one is perfect all the time, I can normally count on my boyfriend to be all of these. What's wrong, Josh? Do you not measure up to a real man?

tonip... toniperoni

put'syou first? I'd like to see a list telling women to put their husbands first...... My husband (married 10 years happily) puts our business first, it pays for everything, then the kids then me.That's the way I like it.  we make time for each other and have fun but he take care of his responsibilities first,

To add to the lis - if you can be 100% yourself without feeling you should be a little bit better in any way then he's the one.You can always be inspired to do more by him but never should you feel you can't just be you


nonmember avatar Ashley

I know my fiancé is the one because he makes me laugh. There is no way I would ever want to committ to someone for the rest of my life without everything on your list plus humor. You need someone who can bring a smile to your face on the worst of days. I love that.

Desere Perrella-Olson

my fiance may not be all of these things but hes most of them, and thats perfectly okay with me. i dont have the typical "perfect man" but i dont want him either, ive got MY man and im going to spend the rest of my life with him.

Todd Vrancic

I like this list.  I would like to think I am successful with most of the list, I hope to improve.

Bluef... Blueflute

This is a load of crap.

nonmember avatar Leona

My husband is completely everything on this list!! woo hoo!

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