Having the Ultimate Orgasm Is Easier Than You Think

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fireworksWomen's magazines have been trying to convince us forever that our orgasms are simply not up to par. They're not intense enough, they should last longer, oh and, by the way, did we know that there's a different kind of orgasm we should be having? The fabled G-spot orgasm! Or A-spot orgasm! (I swear, Cosmo has probably attempted to invent NEW female anatomy in order to sell us on their climax coverlines!)

Well, now there's a new series of scientific essays that lay out evidence concerning vaginal and clitoral orgasms being "separate phenomena," activating different areas of the brain. Apparently, there's a BIG debate about this. Because, again, that orgasm you're already having? Not good enough!!

Here's the thing ... Vaginal orgasms definitely exist. They're not like the mythical unicorn of orgasms that some people would have you believe. Those same people who roll their eyes and say, "G-spot? What G-spot? I've tried for years to find it, and since I can't, obviously it's a cockamamie lie." 

Famous sex researcher Dr. Beverly Whipple says that some in the medical community consistently deny the existence of the G-spot, because "if they can't see it under a microscope, they think it doesn't exist." But she personally believes the women who tell her they've experienced it.

Dr. Lissa Rankin is one of those women. She shares in her book, What's Up Down There? Questions You'd Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend, that she had that elusive "intercourse orgasm" once -- 11 years ago -- and it's evaded her ever since. But you know what? She's perfectly fine with that. As far as I'm concerned, her admission sums up this whole so-called "debate." Yes, scientists! The vaginal orgasm can happen, and it may feel awesome, but not necessarily any more awesome or less awesome as any other kind of orgasm. It's certainly not the only or the best kind of orgasm you can have. And anyone who perpetuates that myth probably has a questionable motive -- like wanting to convince us all that heterosexual sex is superior (rrrrright).

The truth is -- any kind of sex that works for you (as long as it is consensual, of course) is the right kind of sex. Any kind of orgasm you have is the right kind of orgasm. To worry about it any further than that would be totally neurotic splitting hairs. And that's anything but a turn-on!

Have you ever felt pressured to have the "perfect orgasm"?



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Kevin Scott Karsthuntr Davis

My wifa has all three orgasms. She can get a clitoral O with manual or oral stimulation. The vaginal O with intercourse and the so called mythical G spot with manual stimulation only. 

Roniq... Ronique1989

My husband gives me clitoral and g-spot orgasms, so ladies who "can't" orgasm, you are not defected....your man is lol

Mrscj... Mrscjones

I agree with ronique I had the best never before orgasms with my husband. Its not you ladies its your man not putting in the proper time to get to know his and your body.

Brenda Wolf

The Vaginal Orgasm or the Clitoral Orgasm is a hundred year old debate. As far as I am concerned, scientist are looking for the answer in the wrong place. Thank you for this well written article and such a nice message in your conclusion. My partner and I no longer have any mystery about vaginal versus clitoral orgasm since we discovered the Deliberate Orgasm practice from sexuality educators at www.welcomed.com. With it, every woman is orgasmic and can experience orgasm every time. We watched the Welcomed Consensus female orgasm video The Technique of Peaking and Extended Orgasm that shows a woman being brought and maintained in orgasm for over 20 minutes, a life changing experience. Let's put this archaic debate behind us and look ahead for what pleases us.

chave... chavela_carlita

I am perfectly content with my man, and the fact that he always makes sure I climax before he does. Sometimes it happens for us both at the same time. I have had it in my experience that guys as a whole do not know how to control themselves, they get off too easily. I didn't know for the longest time that they could actually do something about it. They can. It's called self control and caring to make your woman get her satisfaction too. Unfortunately too many guys will make excuses "you feel so good" or "you're so hot I couldn't help myself." Please. It might take some practice, but no girl wants a one minute man. Or less. And no we don't "take too long" to reach climax. 


Stephanie Danielle Olivero

You just have to play and explore and have fun and not make it all out to be a big deal!  And, yes, having the right partner can make a big difference!!!!

Michael Shepherd

I have been told by many partners that the G spot is a myth and that vaginal orgasms aren't possible - that massaging the clitoris remains the one and only method to achieve orgasm. I think it's true.

Richard Miksell

Having an orgasm is achieved by communication You have to tell each other what you like. Your excitement makes your partner even more excited. Good lubrication is essential. You have to work up to an organism slowly. [foreplay] A man can delay his orgasm by thinking of other things during the act, Experimentation can be a turnon. My ex liked to be tied up.

vachi... vachick64

I have many orgasms during one of our "sessions" My bf is very considerate to make sure I do BEFORE he gets off. For me that is really easy  That is what passion is all about. For those who do not believe in vaginal orgasms or the g-spot -- buy a dildo or vibrator and a g-sot toy, Use it alone -- see for yourself that you can find pleasure and have mutiple orgasms if you try. If nothing else, this will help you feel more sensual and open your mind to relaxing and having a good time. Don;t rush it unless its an intentional "quickie"!  Then give your bf a chance to play with it...it might just showhim how to please youand give you a mind blowing ogasm!!

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