The Naughty Little Secret of Most Brides-to-Be

woman planning her wedding while at workI LOVE my job. (No, seriously, I swear I'm not just saying that because this post is an assignment for my job.) Every single time I describe my work to people, they're outrageously jealous. As they should be. But at the same time, err, as a newly engaged woman, I find it's easy -- from time to time -- to get sucked into, well, activities that could be described as ... wedding planning! *hangs head in shame*

But! Turns out, I'm not alone! A recent survey from,, and, 90 percent of engaged women are planning their weddings at work. Yes, on company time. I know, sounds so bad! The truth is ... it's not really that unreasonable.

My excuse is that I do certain things -- like compare the prices of silk flowers to fresh or find myself fighting with my mother or mother-in-law-to-be -- for the sake of my writing! (Wink, wink.) Well, it's true. Of course, I'm in the minority. Most of those nine out of ten soon-to-be brides are probably expected to complete tasks that bear no resemblance to e-mailing RFPs to catering managers. But with most wedding vendors available Monday through Friday 9 to 5, what's an engaged gal to do?!

The way I see it, planning a wedding is just as important as any other big life event -- from having a baby to buying a house. There's a lot of prep involved, and sometimes, unfortunately, it can bleed into other aspects of your life. Judging from this survey's findings, most of us can't avoid it no matter how hard we try. Eventually, you're gonna have to respond to some in-law's incessant e-mails about who is invited to the rehearsal dinner. Or call that photographer back smack dab in the middle of your work day.

The bottom-line: You gotta prioritize and juggle your work responsibilities with wedding planning well enough to strike the right balance. That way, planning never gets so out of control that you're at risk of being handed a pink slip. After all, no Big Day is worth that!

Have you ever planned your wedding while at work? Do you agree it's a necessary evil?



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Rhond... RhondaVeggie

I was planning my wedding during my final year of my bachelors degree. I took over a study room in my dorm and set up study materials on one table and wedding stuff on the other. Worked on wedding stuff till my brain seized then studied till that got tiresome and I switched back to wedding stuff.

nonmember avatar HS

I spent 6 months researching houses and since I don't have internet at home it was all accomplished on a work computer. Thank goodness this is anon cuz I literally spent 6 out of 8 hours all day every day only stopping for lunch and when small projects came across my desk lol. But I found my house and got a promotion so many many blessings and HUGE sigh of relief lol.

Torra... TorranceMom

I sure did. I couldn't have planned it in a year if I didn't.

Ari. Ari.

Work is work to me. I would feel guilty getting paid to do personal things on the job, and would write up any employee I saw doing it. Thats what your home life and free time are for.

Todd Vrancic

Meh.  Most employers are understanding if it is once in a while.  When you spend your entire shift doing things not related to your job, they get irritated.

Rhonda Neeley Stephens

That's what lunch and breaks are for.  I think that most employers don't mind the occasional phone call or email because they have been there too.  Todd is right when you spend your whole day and not get any actual work done they will get a little excited about that

Rebecca Peterson

I had a low key wedding. I was in school, packing to move to NC, and worked at a school where I had no access to a computer, so I did everything by hand. Turned out it was one of the most stress free weddings most of our guests attended. It started at noon and since the rented chairs had to be back by 2:30, at 2 we were excited because people were leaving

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