wedding nightAre there really couples out there who have over-the-top, crazy, out-of-control, earth-moving sex on their wedding night? If there are, then they definitely aren't the norm. Because pretty much every married friend I've ever talked to about this subject agrees that wedding night sex totally sucks.

And honestly, should we really have an expectation for it to be good in the first place? It's cliche. It's planned and not spontaneous at all. It's sex for the sake of having sex because everyone expects you to have sex after the wedding reception ends. And somehow, knowing that you are going to leave the party, and then go back to your home or hotel room or wherever and inevitably have sex just takes all the fun out of it. It almost becomes a chore, especially after eating, drinking, and dancing the night away.

I won't lie, I got a little bit drunk at my own wedding almost nine years ago. (Ok, I was trashed.)

I laugh every single time I look at pictures from our reception because I have a glass of wine in my hand in almost every single photo. And while I can't recall too many details about what went on when my husband and I got back to our bungalow suite on the beach that night, I do remember having one thing in the forefront of my brain. I couldn't wait to get back to our room, because I had a to-go box containing a couple extra slices of our beyond delicious key lime wedding cake. That's right -- I wanted to get my sweet fix on more than I wanted to "get it on." (It really was incredible. I still dream about that cake.)

There's plenty of time for fun, spur of the moment, hot and steamy sex on the honeymoon, so couples shouldn't put too much pressure on themselves to go crazy in the bedroom on their actual wedding night. Why get all worked up over something that has a very slim chance of being mind-blowing anyway?

Was your wedding night all that you anticipated it to be? Or were you and your groom way too tired for sex?

 

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