sticks and stonesRemember when Rush Limbaugh called Sandra Fluke a slut? Feels like forever ago, but the repercussions from his name-calling are still rolling in. It's been reported that Rush's wife Kathryn is threatening to leave him over the hateful words he's said. Apparently, she doesn't like being associated with him now that he's bad-mouthed a woman. This bit of gossip is coming from the National Enquirer, and even though it may be totally made up, I think it raises an interesting point about the power of words.

We're taught as kids that sticks and stones break bones and that words never hurt, but as adults, we learn all too fast that a biting phrase here or a subtle put-down there can be just as painful as a rock to the freakin' forehead.

If you think about it, most marriages or relationships end because of words, or a lack thereof. Extreme cases of verbal abuse aside, a lot of couples start to deteriorate when they take their frustrations out on one another with underhand comments that are intended to sting. It can be as simple as a sarcastic laugh or as obvious as a direct insult, but hurtful words of any nature can only be tolerated for so long. Soon enough, one person is going to snap and realize they can't take it anymore.

And not talking, well, that can be just as damaging. Keeping all those emotions inside, bottled up, is like sitting on a ticking time bomb -- at some point it's going to explode and shit's going to fly everywhere.

The happy medium, of course, is good communication. It's easier said than done, but even setting aside one hour every two weeks to have a sort of "state of the union" talk can mean the difference between a happily ever after and a divorce.

If Kathryn is indeed pissed, she has every right to be. Words hurt, and just like a scrape on the knee, they can lead to pain and scarring, despite a good Band-Aid.

Do you place an emphasis on communicating in your relationship?

 

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