While wedding planning has clearly become my second job (as far as a few people in my life seem to think, at least) in the past few weeks since my S.O. and I have gone from BF/GF to F/F, it turns out there are couples who get engaged and don't jump right into picking a date or checking out venues! They get engaged and ... chill. Like Matthew McConaughey and his longtime love, Brazilian model Camila Alves.
After spending over six years together, becoming homeowners and parents together (to kids Levi, who turns 4 in July, and Vida, 2), and generally taking their time getting to the whole "'til death do us part" bit, they finally got engaged in December. And when asked if she feels marriage will change their relationship, Camila had a wise response ...
She told ET Canada:
We've built a life together. So we've been living a married life this whole time ... . A lot of people, sometimes they're so stuck on 'I gotta get married, I gotta get married.' They forget that the really important thing ... is to have a healthy home, a healthy family, a healthy environment for your kids and to have everything going in a good, peaceful way.
I hear that! Even though I totally fit her description of someone stuck on feeling antsy about getting married, I always reminded myself that the most important thing was having a happy, healthy, loving home and life together. Marriage would come in time. Now, while I'm thrilled to be moving forward in an "official" way, it's not as though we (like Matt and Camila) hadn't already been living a "married life." So we don't need to get married to validate our relationship. It's just that making it official with our religion and government is the icing on the cake.
What I think Camila means is that at least for her -- and many couples today -- getting wed isn't the be all and end all that it used to be. Especially for couples who are becoming homeowners, parents, etc. before saying "I do." Instead, it's (as my mom eloquently put it) the end of one chapter and the beginning of another. And we're all allowed to let those chapters play out in whichever order we see fit.
Here's a cute report on the couple's Christmas engagement ...
Do you agree that getting married isn't as important as it used to be -- it's just the icing on the cake of an already happy life together?