7 Telltale Signs Your Guy Is Cheating

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You have your suspicions. You're pretty sure SOMETHING is up with your man. You've asked him about it, but the answer you've gotten isn't making you feel any better or more secure in your relationship. So what now?

You look for signs that your partner is being unfaithful. Here are some of the major signs of infidelity. Take them with a grain of salt, though, as they can mean many, many other things besides cheating.

He's suddenly very consumed by work. Business trips keep popping up outta nowhere, overtime has gone from a "sometimes" thing to something that happens every other night. There's always SOME (valid-sounding) reason he's been spending extra time outside the home.

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Out of nowhere, he begins to care about his appearance. Rather than simply throw on a pair of jeans and a T-shirt, he's now spending more time in the bathroom than you! He's shaving regularly, hitting the gym, paying attention to his wardrobe -- and that may be a sign that he's involved with someone else.

He can't part ways with his cellphone or his iPad. Rather than leaving it on the bedside table like he used to, he's going to great pains to take it everywhere he goes -- including the bathroom and the shower. Why? Maybe he's trying to be more on top of things. Or maybe he's hiding some racy texts or emails from his lover.

He has unexplained bruises on his neck and/or chest. If he's going to great lengths to hide a particular part of his body (wearing a turtleneck in 90-degree weather or refusing to take off his shirt in front of you), there's a strong possibility he's got something he's trying to hide.

He's changed his sexual behaviors. Could be that he's gone from never wanting to have sex to being an overly charged sex machine. Or the opposite -- he's gone from being a sex machine to not wanting anything to do with you in the bedroom. Either way, it's a deviation from the norm -- and it's a sign that something might be hinky.

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He's lying -- a lot. Most couples tell each other little white lies now and again: "You look great in those white short-shorts," or "No, I haven't noticed that you'd put on weight." But when almost every other thing that comes out of your partner's mouth is a lie? He's hiding something. Or someONE.

He's suddenly singing the praises of someone else. In fact, he can't STOP gushing about the person. Maybe it's a coworker or an old friend, but you can tell by the way he's talking that he's REALLY excited about her.

What are some of the other signs of infidelity?

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Boobo... Boobookittt74

The one about keeping his phone on him at all times is a DEFINATE!!!

Heidi Ayn Harden

Or if he gets angry at you for no reason all the time, like when you touch his precious phone...God forbid you check a text message he got while in the shower!!!

Maevelyn Maevelyn

The  turning into a sudden sex machine is the truth! OR he's overly attentive out of nowhere... almost like he's sorry but he's not apologizing...


Maddy... Maddyjoy3

making everything private so you don't see is a good one.

Going out at night and not coming back before a few days or next morning is an other.

his "thing" smells like a girls "you know what"


but besides that those are very good signs and real ones.


Anne4222 Anne4222

You just know. If you have to ask yourself is he chafing?? HE IS! Instinct!!

joyfree joyfree

If he clutches his cell phone like his life depended on it and starts buying himself new clothes, especially new underwear, there's a good chance he's cheating. Don't forget the cologne, too.

NBean311 NBean311

If he starts becoming suspicious of you, even though none of your habits or behaviors have changed... That is usually a red flag in my experience. They feel guilty for cheating and start to project it onto you.

Texas... TexasWife

I agree with NBean that is how I found out about my ex. He would always accuse me of cheating and had already proven in his head that I had. Come to find out he had slept with a girl and introduced me to her.

Amand... AmandaSnyder

Now we cant forget th service members cant part with their phone for two seconds or else the entire command is looking for them.   Service members have to be consumed by their work.  All these others can be true.

Loonah Loonah

Talking about 'someone else' was the dead giveaway for me. One Christmas my (now ex) husband gave me a beautiful outfit, and then told me that his coworker had come to work one day wearing something similar and it looked so good on her, he thought he'd get it for me. He's married to her now, lol.

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