Here's Why Men Find Powerful Women Totally Irresistible

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Gone are the days when men longed for the Good Little Wife to stay at home, all meek and mild, raising the children while they went out to earn the bacon. Today's men have grown up with liberated mothers, they've been informed that men and women can both be powerful, and they've learned to like it.

But why the shift? Here are some reasons that today's men love powerful women and have a hard time resisting them.

Men like women who think for themselves. If a marriage or relationship is supposed to be a partnership, then both parties must be equal. To be equal, both members of a couple must be able to think for themselves, not just submit to what the other wants.

That's not to say there's no compromise involved – all relationships involve compromise – but men love women who are independent-minded thinkers. It makes for a much more interesting partnership.

Ambition is a huge turn-on for most men. Women who want what they want and don't let anything get in their way turn most men on. Knowing that a woman can be ruthless, cunning, smart, and relentless makes men weak in the knees. Why? They're not afraid to make difficult choices.

Powerful women don't beat around the proverbial bush. They don't let men “guess” as to what they want in life. Powerful women say what they want directly, to the point and without fear of the consequences. Men don't enjoy games – they enjoy knowing upfront what their partner is all about.

Why do YOU think men like powerful women?


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Rhond... RhondaVeggie

Most men I know would rather have a wife who respects them and values her family. I can think of two guys I know who are married to powerful women. In one case they married later in life, both pushing fifty, so children were not an issue and in the other case he does want kids but worries about how they'll deal if they have any since his wife doesn't want to be a mom.

Mom2J... Mom2Just1

My husband wants a powerful woman.  He states all these reasons and more. He prefers a wife who has an education and career, wants to share the financial burden of providing for the family that we both created.  He finds it a turn on for a woman to be a wife, mother, and career woman.  

Kwiat2 Kwiat2

I think those things are a turn on at first, but then if and when he wants to settle, marry and have kids, it turns into a turn off. I'm sure if and when he has an affair, he'll be drawn to similar qualities again.

nonmember avatar Laura

I know my husband is drawn to strong women. He tends to dislike literature or movies/television that has, what he views, as meek, weak-willed, or complacent women

nonmember avatar Missforth

Aaaww...those poor little boys who can't keep

count... countrygirl670

I suppose its all in how you were raised (for men, that is).  I do know that in my circle of girlfriends that I grew up with, only one out of the 10 of our group wasn't really ambitious about her education and career; she was always focused on getting married and being a housewife. Interestingly, she is the only one in our circle who has never been married, and rarely even gets boyfriends.  

easun... easunshine

I think men are into women who are confident in themselves and their goals in life, whether that's to be a career woman or the best housewife ever. As long as the woman owns her decision it's a pretty hot thing.

nonmember avatar Travis

LOL! Totally true. By the way, I'm writing an article about how women LOVE guys who live with their parents and play video games all day. I'm sure I'll get tons of comments from video game nerds who live at home telling me I'm right.
Meanwhile, at a time in our country when there are more "powerful" women than ever before marriage rates continue to sink like a stone and divorce rates continue to rise. Strange...

vicesix vicesix

Most men may like a woman with brains and thoughts of her own, but when it comes down to it, I believe men a biologically wired to want to "protect" a woman, to take the reins in the relationship. I am a divorced mom, own my own company, and certainly have the smarts and the will to make my own life, but I am happy to let my SO take the lead in the relationship. He respects everything about me, but my willingness to let him steer fills a very powerful innate need that almost all men have. They don't want to be emasculated.

nonmember avatar Chicago_Dude

Can't speak for some men, lest "most"men so allow me to speak for myself (and my best friend, Ola).

Confident & strong/healthy sense of self women rule my world and there ain't nothing sexier than that.

Naturally, having those 2 qualities and a sense of direction in life are fundamental to success.

For us (success-driven - at whatever - for my best friend & I), that means that our potential/existing partners will find a lot of support in us to encourage her to continue to pursue her dreams, while understanding that she in turn, will support ours because she "gets it!"

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