5 Marriage-Saving Tricks You Have to Try

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By now we've all heard the statistics a zillion times: Half of all marriages end in divorce.

But when you really weigh that, it's a scary thought, right? I mean, you're not standing there at the altar, all, "yeah, if this doesn't work, I'll trade him in for a new model," are you? I wasn't. But it's a frightening reality for many. Divorce happens, and sometimes it happens to us.

So how to you stop from going down that path? You're in luck because I'm here to tell you. Read on for some unique tips for avoiding divorce.

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1) Hang out with each other. One of the biggest relationship issues that can lead to divorce is, oddly enough, not spending enough time -- quality time -- together. Do stuff you guys enjoy: Watch some silly movies, laugh together, and bond. It's so easy to spend time just sitting quietly together but alone, so make sure that really hanging out with each other at least once a week is at the top of your list.

2) Confront those pesky skeletons in your closet. So you hate the way he snores. His mother is a wench. He spends too much time working. Fine -- those are all fair things to dislike in a partner (especially over time). So carefully bring them up, don't just sweep them under the rug and pretend they don't exist. To have a good marriage, communication has to be open and honest, or it leads to resentments.

3) Let some things go. Sure, there are things you're not going to be able to resolve. You can't, for example, make someone stop snoring just by saying it drives you up a wall. If the issue is older than six months, you're going to have to start letting go. There's no way someone can make up for resentment over events from years past.

4) Dance in the kitchen in your socks at least once a week. Even if you don't want to. Even if you don't dance. Even if there's no music. Just dance. Five minutes once a week. Trust me on this one.

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5) Keep the spark alive. Doesn't matter how you do it. If it's edible undies and whipped cream or date night or movie night -- whatever. Just make sure to schedule (if you have to) some time to be with one another and do something that rekindles the spark every single week.

What other tips do you guys have for avoiding divorce?

 

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dirti... dirtiekittie

the biggest one that i'm learning more every day: Remember that your spouse is your partner, and that you chose each other - make a commitment to work at a relationship, not to just "be" in one.


Basically, too many people today say "my kids come first" or "my job is stressful and demanding, so sometimes my spouse has to understand that". And personally, after reading up on it, and looking at real world issues and attitudes around me, i realize that sometimes we just forget that our spouses are the ones who are with us for our lifetime (hopefully!). Please don't misunderstand me: I love my children more than my life and would do anything for them. But they will move out and live their own lives. My husband and I have our lives TOGETHER, and we have to be faithful to one another. Not just intimately, but in all aspects of the word.


When our children see us forge a stronger, more loving bond with our partner, our family grows and shares in that love. And we must all stop to remember that we chose to be with the person we are with, or that we persued them. And we must remember that true love will never stop its pursuit, so neither should we. :)

dirti... dirtiekittie

pursued. i know how to spell, swear. lol ;)

Knuckles Knuckles

6) Don't get married in the first place.



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Flori... Floridamom96

Great post, dirtiekittie.  The best thing husbands and wives can do for their children is build and maintain a strong marriage.


That's a shame, knuckels. The greatest source of joy in my life is my husband. I hope everyone gets to experience such joy.

Boobo... Boobookittt74

I agree with dirtiekittie. And I have 3 small kids and admit sometimes ( alot of times) I lose sight of all that !

ThatT... ThatTattooedMom

Knuckles....that was pretty ignorant. If its not for you, great but don't bash marriage as a whole.

cocob... cocobeannns

I say, pick your battles. Not everything has to be blown up into something it's not. If it's not worth fighting about, don't fight about it. I guess this goes along with "let the little things go." At the end of the day, you still love each other, and those little things aren't going to affect your relationship, so where's the sense in arguing over it? But, do speak up if something is bothering you. It makes things worse to hold them all in and let them build up.

nonmember avatar JaneDWill

@Knuckles: Well I for one thought it was funny. Blog posts are soooooo serious around here.

the4m... the4mutts

None of the things listed in this article would SAVE a marriage, or any relationship. They might strengthen a relationship going through a rough patch, but not keep divorce at bay.

People don't divorce over SNORING. They divorce over cheating, abuse, honestly dried up love, money, and disrespect

LoveM... LoveMyViolet

I for one can see how snoring would be a cause of divorce. My husband snores. To the point where I do not get any sleep. So I asked him to wear one of those breath right strips because it actually helps, but he refuses to do so. Because of this I am a little upset and hurt because he won't do something for me. To actually help me sleep better. His solution instead is to just sleep in another room. It's been months since we've slept in the same bed. Do I sleep better? Yes. Do I feel like a have a roomate instead of a husband? Yes.
So that is how I can see snoring contributing to divorce. 

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