New Dating Site Tells You Why Your Ex Hates You

you suckI can't even begin to guess how many dating sites there are out there. I think there are even dating sites for people who hate dating sites. It's ludicrous. But this latest one -- the one where you can explain via checklist why you never want to see the person you went out with again -- could be the most insane of all.

The site is called Wot Went Wrong, and basically it's a network for the most masochistic and self-loathing of daters. How it works is it allows the dumpee to send the dumper a pre-crafted message, asking, well, "what went wrong?" The site then provides a lovely list of turn-offs for the dumper to check off -- oh, you know, things like “Sex drive is too low,” “Incompatible tastes in music,” “Bad breath,” and “You emasculate me" -- and once completed, sends the list back to the masochist inquirer.

And then the inquirer, in turn, swears off dating for the rest of his or her life and commits themselves to a lifetime of solitude.

Everybody has wondered at some point in their lives why what seemed like a promising romance just fizzled (or stopped calling). It happens to the best of us, and as cliche as it is, it really is for the best. Yeah, it's a blow to the ego, but it gives us a little time for some self-introspection, and it helps us figure out what we like and don't like in others. Not everything needs to be spelled out for us. Sometimes a little mystique is good.

Hearing, or reading, why we suck no holds barred isn't a positive thing for anybody's dating life. Or their non-dating lives. There are enough crappy things in the world already -- and enough things telling us, directly or indirectly, we suck already. We don't need another one. Getting dumped is hard as it is -- hearing a dissertation as to why will only make things worse. Let us go on thinking "it's you, not us." And let us go on thinking our breath is minty-fresh.

Would you want to know exactly why somebody dumped you?


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Michael Gee

Nicole as a guy, a sensitive one to boot, I'd still want to know why I was dumped or why a girl didn't go out with me again. How am I ever going to get better if I don't know what I'm screwing up? It's like going on jump interview after job interview without ever knowing why "we went with a more qualified candidate" Well maybe I could improve something so I'm the better candidate, better date, or boyfriend. I checked out Wot Went Wrong and it leaves a lot to be desired. Seems like a lot of those things on there, wouldn't be issues most people would be afraid to say to their ex's face.

nonmember avatar Shaktiva

Yes, I would want to know. I'm all for introspection, soul-searching and self-improvement though both times, after all I tried, I quitted. I can't really say the same for other couples.
Having said this, most just don't take time to see things through or lack acceptance, seek too much public approval. One that doesn't speak to you directly but will talk to a so-called datingsite, I wouldn't believe too much of it.
Too little sex-appeal? Sex is a two way street, baby. Bad breath? If you can't talk mundane stuff, you're not relationship material. You emasculate me? Grow up and come back when you're man!

nonmember avatar Karma

Your articles are the same as a racist writing an article, "why people can't get alone". Most of your articles about men are laced with misandry. Pick a lane and stay in cannot illustrate hatred of men, and get upset when someone illustrate their hatred on something. To do so is hypocrisy.

nonmember avatar Tania

This website truly has all of the information and facts I wanted concerning this subject and didn't know who to ask.

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