Snooki may or may not be pregnant (but come on, she so is), and now she may or may not be engaged to boyfriend Jionni LaValle. The latest rumor surrounding the Jersey Shore star is that she's going to get married. There aren't any details about how Jionni popped the question and neither Snooki nor MTV is addressing any of the pregnancy/engagement rumors, but reality TV fans everywhere can't help but imagine what Snooki and JWoww's new show will be like now that one half of the over-partying duo is allegedly knocked up and getting hitched.
Even though Snooki is not the brightest crayon in the box, and should never be used as any sort of example in any sort of discussion of any subject whatsoever, she does, in this particular case, raise an interesting question about whether or not it's ever a good idea to get engaged the second you find out you're pregnant.
It goes without saying that it's a 100 percent personal decision that a couple can only make for themselves, but it's an intriguing topic nonetheless.
Aside from the potential financial and health insurance benefits of getting married before that little bundle of joy comes along, there are many things to consider. I, for one, wouldn't be in any rush to tie the knot because of the, say, societal implications, or religious ones. I mean, in this fantasy scenario, I got pregnant and I wasn't married. The jig is up. Running down the aisle just to appear somehow more legitimate wouldn't motivate me.
Another thing that would keep me from a quickie wedding is the fact that part of it would feel, I don't know, forced. I only want to get married for the right reasons, no matter how cliche that may sound, and to think that my baby's father and I were making it official for our baby's sake, and not ours, seems unfair to me and my relationship.
I know some people might feel more secure if they were married before a baby, but that doesn't really speak to me, either. The baby's father would now be forever and always a part of my life, for better or for worse, and I don't think that exchanging vows would make me feel like I had a higher level of permanency. What could be more forever intertwining than sharing a child?
That's not to say that if I got pregnant and wasn't married that I wouldn't be interested, ever, in marrying the father. I'm just saying that I wouldn't make haste to get me a dress and a preacher.
Would you feel like you had to get married to the man that got you pregnant?
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My grandma always used to say that getting married just because you got pregnant was at the top of piss-poor reasons for getting married. I have to agree. Just because you and the father had the physical chemistry doesn't mean you have the emotional chemistry for a good marriage.
well i didn't have to, but i did. we've been together for seven years now and have one other child as well. we've had our ups and downs as any relationship does but we love eachother unconditionally.
My SIL did, under pressure from her family. They're Mormon, and appearances are everything. Met in January, pregnant in October, married in December. It was a verbally abusive relationship, and the divorce happened less than 2 years after the wedding.
It cheapens marriage when people get married just because the woman is pregnant. If they love each other, had been planning on getting married anyway, so on and so forth -- great, go for it. But to get married just because there's a little one on the way is offensive to those of us who got married because we love our spouses.