6 Totally Obvious Signs It's a Great Relationship

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You're in love. Of that there is no doubt. The two of you are like peas and carrots together. There's nothing you don't love about the other (well, okay, his habit of putting the toilet paper roll on THE WRONG WAY is kinda annoying, but you know). You spend all the time you can together. You may even talk marriage.

So, what are the signs you're (finally) in a healthy relationship? I'll tell you.

1) You can be your true selves together. No longer do you have to pretend to love Chinese food or weird obscure foreign films -- you're totally happy saying, "You know what? I'm not into this" while knowing this won't affect a thing between you.

2) You're have your own space and time to yourself. Sure you want to spend every minute together -- but you know that you each need your own space. You can respect that without feeling insecure, hurt, or otherwise jealous of his "me time."

3) You forgive each other for mistakes. Mistakes happen to even the very best of us. And most mistakes are forgivable. Because you can accept that the other is human, and therefore makes mistakes, you're perfectly okay with forgiving the other.

4) You're comfortable sharing just about anything. Anything from the annoying Starbucks barista to the type of chips you had with lunch -- you share it all. You don't hide yourself -- your true self -- from the other.

5) You respect each other's individuality. No two people are alike. We're all just a little bit different. Sure, maybe he loves country and you love rock-n-roll, but that doesn't mean you need to call the whole thing off. Individuality is what makes us interesting.

6) The chemistry between you is incredible. Now, sex isn't the basis of your relationship or anything, but you two are like peanut butter and jelly in bed. Oh wait ... maybe that wasn't a good analogy.

What are some other signs that your relationship is fabulously awesome?


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the4m... the4mutts

Well, I am completely jealous of anyone that has these things. But jealous in a happy, loving way. I'm glad for the people that have a relationship this good.

I have an SO, but I know its nothing like these things, and I often wonder what it would be like. I've never had it.

emmas... emmasmama2007

This is SO and me. We do have a lot in common but also individual intrests, we spend as much time as we can together but make time for ourselves as well. I would add supporting each other to the list. My so is there for me and I'm there for him. If either of us has a problem we'work together to come up with a solution.

Loref... Lorefield

This is the only kind of relationship I will stand for, and finally have! Not to be bragging because it has not always been so good. Had to weed through many potential mates to find the right one. I'm 36, divorced for 12 years and have now settled into an almost year long relationship with a great guy.

It's all about standing up for what's important to you and not accepting anything less! And, you have to be willing to be alone if you don't find it...


Freela Freela

My dh and I are like this... we've been married for thirteen and a half years.  One thing that always made me appreciate dh... for years, when we would order a pizza, he would let me pick the toppings then would pick off the ones he didn't like.  Which was pretty much all of them.  He ate 'naked pizza' for years so I could have the toppings I liked.  He's a good guy!

nonmember avatar Sue

You don't let your ego rubbed for each other success or less success. You don't let a negative felling or having a bad day to bring down her or him. You know how to take time off and pick yourself up.

jaxmadre jaxmadre

Aww I can check all these boxes for my bf and I. So I'll remember that the next time I read a Stir article that makes me feel crappy about my relationship (that I know is heaven!). I choose to believe the good! I love my hon! It's totally all him

Cher53 Cher53

Completely is my Husband and I, we are going on being married  July 4, 2012 31 wonderful years. Here we both thought we were just weird so I totally love the article. This is so true though

                                                                     Thank You!cat

Katherine Joy Owens

I have all of these and more with my dear hubby except I do not agree with number two, at least not for us. We have been together since we were 14 so for us we time not spent together is half empty. So even "private time" is always spent together.

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