6 Completely Outdated Relationship Rules You Should Ignore

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Seems like there's a zillion and a HALF relationship rules to follow. Do this, don't do that, always do this, never do that. It can leave even the most experienced of those of us who date with our heads whirling.

The first step in finding the good ones to follow is to weed out the bad. I've brought you a list of the most antiquated of them all out there - so you can cross 'em off your list.

Here are 6 of the most outdated relationship rules that we need to kick to the curb.

1) Playing hard to get and making a man chase you. I'm not suggesting that we women throw ourselves at the feet of a potential suitor and beg and plead that he take us out! No one wants to be a Pity Date. Guys don't dig the whole thrill of the chase - they want to KNOW if you're into them. So playing hard to get? That's SO last century.

2) The man is responsible for paying on dates - always. Ladies, it's 2012! We're strong, independent women with careers, apartments, cars - there's no reason we can't go halfsies on a date - or take turns paying. SO outdated!

3) Make him make the first move. So you had a really great date - dinner was superb, the movie was hilarious and you're pretty sure you're digging on him. But ... he doesn't lean in for a kiss. DO IT YOURSELF, LADIES! There's not a single reason you should wait for the guy to make the first move.

4) PDA is tacky (sort of). Okay, well this one is partially true. I don't need to sit at dinner across from a couple with their hands in each other's pants, but why not kiss when you feel like it? Why not grab the moment - even in the middle of a crowd - and take it? Do it! Just reserve bedroom romps for the bedroom.

5) You must be married to live together. This is such an outdated dating rule that I'm pretty sure dust is falling from my fingers as I type this. There is no reason two people who love each other shouldn't cohabitate! In fact, living together is good preparation for marriage!

6) You can't ask a guy out. Now please tell me that none of you are still following this antiquated silly old adage. There's no reason you have to be coy about what you want. If you want to get together with a guy, SAY SO. Men love women to be upfront with them. So just do it.

So, ladies and gents, what are some other ancient dating rules we should ignore?


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the4m... the4mutts

Its about time! Good job!

You covered all but one. And I might be the only one that has a problem with it. But LABELING the relationship dating/exclusive/going steady/boyfriend I find those terms should be reserved for high school.

Stacey. Stacey.

I love number 5, I couldnt imagine living with someone for the first time only after getting married. Theres no better way to get to know someone than sleeping with them (and I do mean actually sleeping).

I would like to get rid of dating rules altogether, just do what feels right.

nonmember avatar JustMe

Quote: "But LABELING the relationship dating/exclusive/going steady/boyfriend I find those terms should be reserved for high school." I agree to an extent. I think the only people who need to know the status of the relationship are the people in it. But I think making sure you are on the same page as to what level of commitment you have to each other is a good idea. So exclusive vs. not exclusive dating is still applicable to adults (in my opinion of course) I am totally on board with this article though, if you want to be an independent woman act like it, that means contributing to the date (weather that is a kiss at the end or going dutch on the dinner)

Kwiat2 Kwiat2

I think a guy should always pay for a date. I was in a serious relationship with a man who always went halfsies- on everything. Found out down the road he wasn't interested in getting a real job, getting married, and I guess he thought kids would pay for themselves. I think a man paying shows that he's capable of being a provider, which as a SAHM meant a lot to me. My husband paid for everything while we were dating even though he wasn't rich. It showed his intentions to want to take of me, and I don't care how outdated that seems!

zandh... zandhmom2

I agree with all but the first one. Most of the guys I know do like the chase.

nonmember avatar tessa

couldn't agree more kwiat! i love my traditional marriage!!

Tiffa... TiffanyMarie80

I followed every rule on this "outdated"list, and am now happily married to a wonderful man who pursued and wooed me, and continues to 10 years and 3 children later :)

momof... momof3cuties987

I don't think the advice is all bad.  Playing hard to get works with many men.  The man should pay for the dates at first, later on the girls should start footing some bills though.  Many men either get intimidated if the girl makes the first move, or it may make the girl look too desperate if she can't wait.  The living together before marriage is up for debate, they say that it makes marriages more likely to end in divorce but I think it can be good for some couples.  And as for asking a guy out, if a guy is interested he should ask a girl out.  Not to say that a girl can't do it, but I wouldn't.

MIA0223 MIA0223

I disagree 4 and 5 are outdated :/

Michelle Hysell

how bout waiting for the man to propose? i proposed to my hubby and we are very happy!

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