What Women Really Want for Valentine's Day Shouldn't Come as a Surprise

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valentine's dayTurns out, great minds do think alike. According to a new survey by couples mediator Laurie Puhn, women don't really want anything for Valentine's Day. Anything tangible, that is. She asked about 200 women between the ages of 30 and 49 and found that a whopping 72 percent want a day off from housework/childcare. That's all. No flowers, no chocolate, no teddy bears holding flowers and chocolate -- none of that. The only thing most women want is some gosh darn help.

So don't feel somehow embarrassed, or old, or like you've lost that spark if you're not into the frivolous, heart-shaped gifts that wilt after a while, make you fat, or pop. You're clearly not alone.

So before the 14th rolls around, maybe we should try and communicate our wishes to our dear old lover boys and let them know that this year they should save their money and instead roll up their sleeves. I think we've all learned by now that we won't get what we don't ask for, so loop in your significant other and be upfront. It might hurt Godiva's business, but it'll certainly help you and your sanity.

There's nothing unromantic about telling a man what you want, even if it is for him to do the laundry or take the kids to and from basketball practice. There's enough pressure as it is surrounding V day, so make it easier on everyone and say what you're really thinking. And say it soon -- you're almost running out of time.

Other than some help around the house, 14 percent of women wanted a special plan for dinner, 9 percent wanted a gift, and 5 percent wanted sex. So if you weren't feeling the whole "Queen for a Day" scenario, maybe you fall into one of those other percentage categories.

What do you want for Valentine's Day?


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nonmember avatar JS

My Valentines wish: FINISH THE BATHROOM REMODEL ALREADY! That's it, that's all I want - its been 4 months and I'm sick to death of using the guest room standing coffin size shower - I want MY shower back!

CPN322 CPN322

Maybe Women should start making their men help out around the house ALL THE TIME!!! I do. You best believe he gets a talking to when he doesn't. Who the hell decided just women should clean?? Didn't grow up seeing that(my dad is an AWESOME cleaner) and am certainly NOT going to accept that for myself. I'm in the other categories.

emmas... emmasmama2007

I honestly don't want anything for valentines. I don't buy into it. I prefer my hubby getting me a card, choclates, or taking me out to a nice dinner just because on any random day throughout the year. Cause it should happen any time, not just one set day of the year. IMO.

Kiwis... Kiwismommy19

Nothing. Housework and kid care is already shared. I'm allergic to flowers. We already always have chocolate in the house. Can get sex whenever I want it. When the budget allows we have dinner out. To me, it's just another day.

JDSmi... JDSmith625

Why should i have to do house work on valentines day? Can we just hire someone to do these things?

Marjc... Marjchaos

My husband tends to buy me flowers. I like it. He tends to be in his own head a lot, being a writer and an engineer, so he's not a big giver of compliments. Valentine's Day is a reminder I don't have to give him, that it would be nice to hear him express his affection for me (or see it).

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