It's rare that you read a celebrity interview in which solid love advice is shared. It's usually so watered down and full of cheesy placations that all you really walk away with is that you should "do what's best for you." Which is entirely true, just not all that interesting or insightful. Gwyneth Paltrow, however, broke the mold recently when she talked to Harper's Bazaar. In her interview, she spoke about what it's like to be married for eight years and exposed some rather private tidbits.
But her candidness didn't come across as needy or whiny. It was real, heartfelt, and yeah, I'll say it: helpful. Here's what she told the magazine about life with husband Chris Martin:
We’ve been married for more than eight years now and we’re still into it. I think you do fall in and out of love and you just keep going, and every time you go through a really difficult phase, you rediscover something new and it just gets better.
I don't know about you, but I haven't heard anyone ever admit that they fall in and out of love with their husband, but I sure as hell believe that does happen and that she's not the only one who that happens to.
Love is constantly in motion. It takes on different forms, it lessens and intensifies, it burns and fizzles, it goes away and it comes back. And when you've been with someone for eight years, love's had time to change over and over again. As long as you're aware of the morph, as Gwen seems to be, I think she's right: You'll come out of the experience stronger and more appreciative as the love changes back into the something you had in mind for your marriage.
More often than not, it seems that celebs in Hollywood call it quits as soon as they realize the fairytale is over, so it's nice to hear Gwen open up about how hard it can be to maintain a relationship (I mean, falling out of love can't be easy) and how she's learned and grown from the experience. I guess that's all we can do, really: Learn and grow. Well that, or we could get a divorce. But I think I'd rather live by Gwen's rules than Kim Kardashian's any day of the week. Wouldn't you?
What do you think of Gwen's advice?
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