35 Brutally Honest Reasons Women Say No to Sex

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broken heartYou know how sometimes people say women say one thing but mean another? Well, that's totally true. For women and men, but I can only really speak for women because I am one. One subject that is often difficult to be totally and completely upfront about is sex. And I mean whether you are a woman having sex with a new lover or sex with your husband of 3,987 years (or maybe it just feels that long). We kind of have a one size fits all phrase for when we don't want to have sex. Perhaps you've heard it before? "I'm just not in the mood."

Fair enough. Sometimes we just aren't in the mood and it's for no other reason than the thought of getting naked gives us a headache. (Headache, of course, is another common excuse and often very real.) But there are many times we aren't in the mood for a reason. Maybe it's something the man did, or something we did. So I took this topic to a whole bunch of women and asked for their responses on the real reason they say no to sex. Some may surprise you.

  1. Because you didn't do the dishes.
  2. There is a weird smell coming from your butt.
  3. You flirted with the waitress and it made me upset.
  4. I feel fat and I am so not in the mood.
  5. I have B.O. so I don't want you near me.
  6. You have B.O. and I don't want you near me.
  7. I didn't brush my teeth.
  8. It smells like you didn't brush your teeth.
  9. You aren't paying enough attention to foreplay.
  10. I really don't want to give you a blowjob and I know that's what you like first and I just. can't. do. it.
  11. Because I don't want to do it the minute you walk in the door like you expect.
  12. Because you've been a pervert all day and it's annoying.
  13. I'm hungry -- and not for sex. 
  14. Because I'm tired.
  15. Because groping doesn't turn me on.
  16. You're drunk and I'm not.
  17. I don't feel sexy.
  18. Because I have no interest in sex at all. 
  19. I slept with someone else earlier in the day.
  20. I just want to be alone.
  21. Everyone's been up my ass all day, the kid, the dog, the cat, I don't want you there, too.
  22. Because you're being an asshole.
  23. Because you're being rough in a mean way.
  24. I masturbated today. I've had enough.
  25. Because I can't orgasm and I don't feel like faking it right now.
  26. Because you aren't hard and I'm tired of trying. 
  27. Because loafing around the house in your boxers while you scratch your balls doesn't make me hot.
  28. I'm on my period.
  29. Because I wish the time you just spent playing your Xbox you were playing with me instead.
  30. Because you don't want to do it how I want and I don't feel like explaining. 
  31. I fantasized about an ex today. I can't do it with you right now.
  32. Because I'm cranky.
  33. Five minutes ago you were basically ignoring me. Now you want to have sex? No.
  34. Because I just showered and don't want to get dirty.
  35. Because I don't think you love me.

How many of these reasons have been true for you?

 

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nonmember avatar Jess

#36 - You take too long and as a mother, I have about 700 other things I could be doing right now.

cherylam cherylam

love them all.... #21 works best around here... kids wanting money, DH bitching about money, spending money to feed animals, including his dog...trying to make make more money... jeez, get off my ass about money!

linzemae linzemae

I'm all about the smells! If his breath is gross he can't even kiss me! And then I'm just turned off! Most of the time I just don't feel sexy.. or I have gas

sweet... sweetcherry_59

Some of these are a bit out there for me but a lot of them are so true and it makes me feel better to know I'm not the only one. 

nonmember avatar JAM

yuk AND tmi...

Toddl... ToddlerBrain82

I love this, Michele!! So true.

dee31087 dee31087

Lmao these made me giggle. I agree with most of them. When I'm just too tired n stressed n he thinks waving that thing at me is just gonna change my mood in a second lol fat chance..

Autoc... Autoclave239

#36, it doesn't feel good.



Yeah, I said it. OW. Get out of me, foreplay wasn't enough and it hurts. Now I'm really not in the mood.

nonmember avatar Beth

BRILLIANT!!!!

nonmember avatar Stacey

8 of them are true for me. The biggest is when I don't feel loved and appreciated, the thought of sex or even being touched makes me physically ill. Probably TMI, but I was thinking it was associated with my history of sexual assault. it looks like it may be just a common woman thing.

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