7 Easy Ways to Attract & Charm a Man


Trying to attract a guy isn't always easy (as we all know!), but it's also not as impossible as it feels sometimes. There are plenty of ways to attract an awesome guy without using your body, but by using your personality instead.

Personality is one of the first things people notice about you and one of the most important parts of a compatible relationship. There are lots of ways to use your wit, personality, and charm to attract a good guy.

Here are some tips.

1. Stand tall and proud. Self confidence is one of the biggest turn-ons out there -- for men and women alike. So, ladies, be confident, be strong, be powerful and proud of who you are. That's bound to turn more than a few heads.

2. Think positively. There's very little that's attractive about someone who is always a Debbie Downer -- as a friend or as a partner. Guys really dig girls who are positive and upbeat, so exude that positive vibration whenever you can!

3. Use your eyes. Eye contact is key. Make sure that when you're talking to a guy you dig, use those eyes. They're the windows to the soul, after all.

4. Smile -- but mean it. It's such an obvious thing to do -- smile -- but it's so important. Acting aloof or bitchy isn't any way to attract a man. So strap on that smile to increase your positivity vibe!

5. Go out in groups of women, but no more than three. Big groups of women can be very hard to approach. Three is a great number because when the guy who's digging on you walks up, your friends can keep his friends company.

6. Dress like you care. No, not all slutty or anything, but dress nicely, like you genuinely care about what you look like. This doesn't mean you need to look like you stepped off a runway (unless, of course, you just did), but just that you care about your appearance.

7. Use your wits. It's time to be charming, sarcastic, and snarky without being a bitch. Guys love a funny girl, and if you've got that special snark, well, they'll fall all over you.

Got any other advice for attracting guys?


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kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

What happen to be yourself? U can't force alot of these if they don't come home naturally.

nonmember avatar zizzler

What kj says is right, it's pretty hard to fake being attractive if you're not (personality or appearance), but I guess if you're desperate enough it's worth a shot. I think most "unattractive" people get to the point where they'll take whatever they can get--including a relationship founded on false attraction. I think someone would at least give you credit for the effort!

jessi... jessicasmom1

I am totally myself ... always if I can't attract them well then there loss .lol

megha... meghanmeghan

The article says nothing about changing your personality. It says,to walk tall. Be proud of who you are. Be happy. Don't be afraid to make a joke or two.

sodapple sodapple

I agree, be yourself!

odessie odessie

Agree with Meg. Besides going out to specifically hook up or attract a guy is not the best plan. How bout going out to just have fun, forget about trying to attract a guy, it should not be a job, and who wants to work? I didn't. I went out to have fun and relax and if I met a dude that I thought hit the mark then awesome. I met up with my hubby to hang out but he turned into a date and then he realized he had to chase me  a little! Men love to chase women btw, so of course i played a little cat and mouse with him they love it! and never ever under dressed! I always covered up since I only wanted him to be the guy who saw any skin on me! He loves that about me that I do not flaunt myself to any other guy. Now that we are married I still keep him interested and he is ok if I show a little skin now since I am his only and have a ring on the finger! haha. 

Susie19 Susie19

How about don't try so hard..if a guy likes you then let it be for who you are. If u don't like putting makeup on everyday or wearing your hair down then the guy should like u with no makeup and with ur hair up.

mamad... mamadolly

I think its a lot easier then all of that.. Just walk up to him and say something like, "your looking pretty sexual tonight, wanna make it rain on dat ass?" works everytime.

count... countrygirl670

I think just being yourself is good advice.  Unless "being yourself" doesn't include taking daily showers.  In that case, you should strive to be someone else; in particular,  someone who bathes everyday.

At least, that's been my experience.

Madison Porter

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I read the book throughly, practiced it and realized that advices really work ! With the help of the advices and using my
own qualities, I met my boy friend, and since two months we have a wonderful relation.

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