Tim Gunn's Unconventional Sex Life Doesn't Leave Him Unsatisfied (VIDEO)


tim gunn talks to the revolution about not having sex for 29 yearsThere are very few icons in the fashion world who I'd really love to sit down with and have a one-on-one. Icons who I don't think would intimidate the hell out of me or make me feel bad about my fashion sense (or perhaps lack thereof sometimes). Tim Gunn is one of those few. There's a reason anyone who has watched even five minutes of Project Runway adores him. He really comes off as a consistently genuine, wise, and sweet guy. We got to see that on yesterday's episode of The Revolution on ABC, which was all about "jumpstarting your sex life."

If you're actually really sick of hearing about how your sex life isn't quite good enough or about how you should be having MORE sex (because you think you're doing just fine, thanks), the opening convo of the show was for you.

When the conversation turned to how 15 to 20 percent of people are in no sex or low sex relationships, and the knee-jerk reaction was "That's saaaad," Tim interjected and admitted that he's been celibate -- and is NO SEX, absolutely none! -- for 29 YEARS. (That is one year longer than I have been alive. Whoa.) And he says he's perfectly happy. The reason he doesn't have sex, he said, is mostly psychological. He was with a partner who was "impatient with his sexual performance," and it was on the "cusp of AIDS," so he sort of just retreated in a self-protective reasons and stopped doin' it. Definitely sad, because Tim deserves a happy, healthy sex life, but if that's just not in the cards for him or something his heart is in, then who are we to judge?

Just like cohost Dr. Jennifer Ashton said later:

It's very important to put this into context. There are people who want to get their sexy back, and I think that's probably a majority of people ... who would like to have more or better sex. But there are a lot of people who are comfortable with where they are at that point in their life .... Maybe you don't want to have more sex, and that's fine!

Bravo! The media loves to harp on how we should all be trying to "fix" our failing libidos (cause we collectively, as a society, need to be on Viagra, apparently), be having X type of sex X times a week, be striving to "please our man" better and more frequently, or whatever! I agree with Dr. Jen that there are opportunities for all couples to spice it up in the bedroom or take their lovemaking to the next level, but not everyone needs to "jumpstart their sex life." One couple may be blissful in what another couple would consider a "low sex relationship."

Seriously -- I had a friend joke that more than once a week would be amazing to her, while another couple I know of does it at least three times a week. And everyone has occasional dry spells, which is totally normal -- as long as both partners are on the same page. Ultimately, that's what it should be about. Not more sex, not better sex -- just SATISFYING sex, however that's defined in your relationship.

Here's the clip in case you missed it ...


Are you sick of hearing about how you should be "jumpstarting your sex life"? How satisfied are you? And OMG, how do you feel about Tim's 29-year-long celibacy?


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linzemae linzemae

Kudos to Tim for being honest. He put his health first and that's the smart thing to do!

clg1213 clg1213

lovely honesty.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

He is asexual, of course he doesn't want sex. If someone doesn't want sex then they are going to be perfectly happy with it. I have no desire to go sky diving and I'm sure I will spend the next 29 years of my life happily not skydiving.

dilly... dillyboysmom

^^^The things your mind comes up with.  He's gay.  It's demeaning for you to call him asexual when he doesn't identify as such.

nonmember avatar Cookie

I completely understand this. I don't really like sex and neither does my hubby. We do have it every once in a while but I don't especially need it and neither does he... But we love eachother and we are completely happy.

Mandago Mandago

^^ Actually, I've read interviews with him where he does describe himself as asexual, so her mind didn't just come up with it.

zandh... zandhmom2

I also read an interview where Tim claims himself as asexual.  I wonder if maybe he really isn't gay. He has only had one relationship in his lifetime and it fails because his partner was impatient with his sexual performance.  Maybe he didn't perform well was because he isn't gay but actually not into either sex. Maybe he thought he was gay because he didn't find women attractive so he just assumed that he must like men and then realize that he really wasn't into that either. No matter, I LOVE Tim Gunn and I personally don't care who he sleeps with or doesn't sleep with.

Torra... TorranceMom

I'm pretty sure I'm asexual, after the birth of my children, I literally NEVER want sex.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

I completely understand this idea!! Sex was never a priority of mine and for me its less carnal and more of a bonding experience and something I can give to my husband. My husband satisfies me greatly, but I'd be ok if we couldnt/werent able to do it all the time.

Marjc... Marjchaos

You can be what is called a Homoromantic Asexual. It means you prefer same sex romantic relationships, but aren't really interested in sex in general, although there are varying degrees of what asexuals prefer in terms of physicality. Apparently, no sex is not the same as no romance. I did a little research on the topic out of curiousity when I ran across the term this last year, and now have several internet friends who identify as asexual. I would reccomend Aven's FAQs for more information.


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