There are very few icons in the fashion world who I'd really love to sit down with and have a one-on-one. Icons who I don't think would intimidate the hell out of me or make me feel bad about my fashion sense (or perhaps lack thereof sometimes). Tim Gunn is one of those few. There's a reason anyone who has watched even five minutes of Project Runway adores him. He really comes off as a consistently genuine, wise, and sweet guy. We got to see that on yesterday's episode of The Revolution on ABC, which was all about "jumpstarting your sex life."
If you're actually really sick of hearing about how your sex life isn't quite good enough or about how you should be having MORE sex (because you think you're doing just fine, thanks), the opening convo of the show was for you.
When the conversation turned to how 15 to 20 percent of people are in no sex or low sex relationships, and the knee-jerk reaction was "That's saaaad," Tim interjected and admitted that he's been celibate -- and is NO SEX, absolutely none! -- for 29 YEARS. (That is one year longer than I have been alive. Whoa.) And he says he's perfectly happy. The reason he doesn't have sex, he said, is mostly psychological. He was with a partner who was "impatient with his sexual performance," and it was on the "cusp of AIDS," so he sort of just retreated in a self-protective reasons and stopped doin' it. Definitely sad, because Tim deserves a happy, healthy sex life, but if that's just not in the cards for him or something his heart is in, then who are we to judge?
Just like cohost Dr. Jennifer Ashton said later:
It's very important to put this into context. There are people who want to get their sexy back, and I think that's probably a majority of people ... who would like to have more or better sex. But there are a lot of people who are comfortable with where they are at that point in their life .... Maybe you don't want to have more sex, and that's fine!
Bravo! The media loves to harp on how we should all be trying to "fix" our failing libidos (cause we collectively, as a society, need to be on Viagra, apparently), be having X type of sex X times a week, be striving to "please our man" better and more frequently, or whatever! I agree with Dr. Jen that there are opportunities for all couples to spice it up in the bedroom or take their lovemaking to the next level, but not everyone needs to "jumpstart their sex life." One couple may be blissful in what another couple would consider a "low sex relationship."
Seriously -- I had a friend joke that more than once a week would be amazing to her, while another couple I know of does it at least three times a week. And everyone has occasional dry spells, which is totally normal -- as long as both partners are on the same page. Ultimately, that's what it should be about. Not more sex, not better sex -- just SATISFYING sex, however that's defined in your relationship.
Here's the clip in case you missed it ...
Are you sick of hearing about how you should be "jumpstarting your sex life"? How satisfied are you? And OMG, how do you feel about Tim's 29-year-long celibacy?
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