Taking a break is one of the most challenging, frustrating, and saddening parts of a relationship. No one wants to feel as though their relationship has failed or that they themselves have somehow failed. But sometimes, a break is necessary. Not only is it necessary, sometimes, it's a good thing.
Here are eight signs that it's time to take a break from your current relationship.
1. You don't talk anymore. Do you spend time talking -- really talking -- with your partner, or do you resort to talking about the weather (or other trivial stuff) only? When you've stopped really communicating, it's time to take a break.
2. You don't spend time together. Movie night has been replaced with "guys' night." Dates are a thing of the past. Trying to pin your partner to even hang out together is like nailing Jello to the wall. If your partner does not want to spend time with you (or the reverse), it's time to take a break.
3. You fight all the time. Sure, some amount of fighting is normal in relationships. Relationships (no matter WHAT others say) are hard work. But if fighting becomes the only interaction you two have, it's time to take a break.
4. You don't have sex. Sex is a very important part of any relationship. It helps bond you to your partner, and provides a sense of intimacy. No sex = a problem. It's time to have a (gentle) conversation about it or take a break.
5. You sleep in separate bedrooms. Very few couples can survive living in separate bedrooms for very long. It's not healthy, and very little good can come of it.
6. Your relationship has more bad than good. Yes, relationships are hard. Yes, they all have unique challenges. But when you can estimate that your relationship has more bad than good, it's time to take a break and reassess how the relationship is really working for you.
7. You think about breaking up -- a lot. Once you start thinking about life without your partner often, and it doesn't make you weep, it's time to reevaluate why you two are together in the first place.
8. You're not happy. Your partner isn't happy. Happiness, my friends, is worth a lot. If your relationship doesn't make you happy and fulfilled, it's time to take a break.
What about you? What are some signs that you know it's time to take a break from a relationship?
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All most all of these apply to my current relationship. Things have been heading down hill for a long time and I have tried talking to my bf but, he doesn't get it. I have four kids from a previous marriage and after two years with my current bf there is no relationship between him and my kids. The only time they interact is when they are fighting.He always promises to put more effort into building a relationship with my kids but the relationship must be on his terms. About a year ago we got in a heated argument and I ended up with a broke nose. Completely shattered required four hours of surgery to fix it. Even with that in mind I was determined to make things work. Nothing is getting better it's like spinning tires in the mud. My boyfriend is 43 I am 29 so I thought maybe his age played a factor into things. But 43 doesn't mean your doomed and that's how he acts. I can't get him to play ball or even venture outside with my kids he just isn't interested. I am to the point where I feel it's time to go but i hate feeling like a failure.
haaaaahhhh we sleep in seperate bedrooms because my daughter still wakes up at 4 am (she's 2 1/2) and cries if i put her back to bed and screams fro daddy, plus...um...I kinda....roll over on top of him, hit him in the head, paw at his hair, knee him in the groin and back and push him out of bed.....all while I'm dead asleep....he tells me about it later but feels bad because he's afraid whe will make me feel bad. I think it's hysterical cuz i hav eno clue what he's talking about! so He sleeps (9 nights out of 10 at least) in the guest room for his own safety lol. We fight a lot but we have sex about once a week and we hav elots of good times and we have me time too one night a months or two sometimes we have a friends date night i have girl dates and he has guy dates! today my BFF took me out and and i sent my hubby for a massage and beer with a mutual friend! now i'm on the computer ignoring him because i don't feel like laying in bed yet. Sometimes when we have horrible fights and we get super angry we say awful things and threaten divorce but we normally work it out and say sorry didn't mean it......but in all honesty I can't imagine being with out him. :)