8 Signs It's Time to Take a Break From Your Relationship


Taking a break is one of the most challenging, frustrating, and saddening parts of a relationship. No one wants to feel as though their relationship has failed or that they themselves have somehow failed. But sometimes, a break is necessary. Not only is it necessary, sometimes, it's a good thing.

Here are eight signs that it's time to take a break from your current relationship.

1. You don't talk anymore. Do you spend time talking -- really talking -- with your partner, or do you resort to talking about the weather (or other trivial stuff) only? When you've stopped really communicating, it's time to take a break.

2. You don't spend time together. Movie night has been replaced with "guys' night." Dates are a thing of the past. Trying to pin your partner to even hang out together is like nailing Jello to the wall. If your partner does not want to spend time with you (or the reverse), it's time to take a break.

3. You fight all the time. Sure, some amount of fighting is normal in relationships. Relationships (no matter WHAT others say) are hard work. But if fighting becomes the only interaction you two have, it's time to take a break.

4. You don't have sex. Sex is a very important part of any relationship. It helps bond you to your partner, and provides a sense of intimacy. No sex = a problem. It's time to have a (gentle) conversation about it or take a break.

5. You sleep in separate bedrooms. Very few couples can survive living in separate bedrooms for very long. It's not healthy, and very little good can come of it.

6. Your relationship has more bad than good. Yes, relationships are hard. Yes, they all have unique challenges. But when you can estimate that your relationship has more bad than good, it's time to take a break and reassess how the relationship is really working for you.

7. You think about breaking up -- a lot. Once you start thinking about life without your partner often, and it doesn't make you weep, it's time to reevaluate why you two are together in the first place.

8. You're not happy. Your partner isn't happy. Happiness, my friends, is worth a lot. If your relationship doesn't make you happy and fulfilled, it's time to take a break.

What about you? What are some signs that you know it's time to take a break from a relationship?


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Stacey. Stacey.

When the thought of someone gives you butterflies and not in a good way.

nonmember avatar Disagree

I have to disagree on the separate bedrooms issue. My husband snores incredibly loudly, kicks violently, and gave me a black eye from thrashing in his sleep. We still have a great sex life, and I think it keeps our marriage stronger because I'm actually getting sleep! That's a ridiculous stretch- you don't bond solely by bed sharing!!

memek... memekisses

Ugh. We're having 8 out of the 10...and were married!! :( :(

nonmember avatar blh

Most of these are a sign that its time to work on your relationshio not break up. This is why everyone gets divorced nowadays. Relationships aren't easy and it won't always be rainbows and butterflies. And I don't think its necessarily terrible to sleep in separate rooms, say if someone snores like a chainsaw or is a terrible bedhog. Not getting any sleep isn't healthy.

sweet... sweetcherry_59

memekisses...there were only 8 so you have all 8? It's probably time to do some self reflecting and talk to your spouse about where your relationship is going. I'm sorry :( 

nonmember avatar Whatever

Sleeping in separate bedrooms saved my parents' marriage which lasted 40 years till my dad passed.

nonmember avatar B

I can say that I can relate to almost each one of these things but that does not in any way mean I need to call it quits. It means that we have a lot to work on and recognizing that is the first step. If you look only for the negative in a relationship, and reasons why you should have a break, then of course you will find them. No relationship is perfect but instead of focusing on why you should end it, instead focus on how you can save it.

Readi... ReadingIsSexy27

Why is this article trying to push people to separate rather than work on things?  If you are just dating and have these issues then get out before you become too invested and stay in something unhealthy.  But if you are married, then these are signs you need to work on things.  No one goes through a marriage having a rosy time the whole time,  life happens and life is tough.  If you have some of these issues then work on things, or go to counseling, dont separate without even working on things.  People get divorced way too quickly these days.

CPN322 CPN322

Agree with the others. Those mean it's time to work on your relationship.

twins... twinsforlove

Yah alot of these apply to me

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