You've probably heard by now: Newt Gingrich's second ex-wife, Marianne Ginther Gingrich, will be on Nightline tonight discussing the House Majority leader's request for an open marriage. Gasp! Clearly, this is going to have some political repercussions, because who would want a polygamous POTUS?!
To be honest, I could care less what Newt or anyone else wants to do in the bedroom or in their own relationship. I know National Geographic and TLC love to promote the pants off of their shows about people with open relationships that come in a rainbow of numbers, colors, genders, etc. And that's cool, but when it comes to what seems to really work for me -- and come on, let's be real, most Americans -- it's monogamy all the way.
It's not because the idea of an open marriage is too kinky or bizarre. Having more than one partner seems like a tame way to fight the sexual repression in this country! It's more that I don't think it would be as fulfilling or satisfying as it might seem on paper.
I'll never forget an essay I once read in Marie Claire in which the author was talking about how she gave her hubby a threesome for his b-day. She thought she was being sexually open and openminded, but in the end, the whole experience fell flat for her. She said it was "nice." She didn't end up feeling jealous the way most of us probably think we would, but she was left feeling unsettled and a bit bothered by the whole ordeal. In the end, it didn't really create the fireworks she had hoped for either.
And it seems to me an open marriage would very much have the same effect for most people. Furthermore, what's the point of even being married if you want to have more than one partner? I'm sure it works for some people. In fact, I know it has worked for certain couples. (According to The People vs. Larry Flynt, the Hustler publisher and his wife, Althea, had sex with whomever they both pleased, ha, but obviously, they were living a certain lifestyle!) But most of us? Our hearts just weren't built for multiple partners. For that reason, I sure as hell don't blame Marianne for responding to Newt's request with a big fat "NO."
What do you think about open marriages -- crazy or potentially cool?
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