4 Tips to Help Your Long Distance Relationship Survive


Careers, college, family struggles can all uproot a stable relationship and move it 3,000 miles away. Or, perhaps, you two met on the Internet and neither is ready to give up your life in your hometown. Either way, the bottom line is this: What do you do when you're in a long distance relationship?


The horror stories of long distance relationships are all over the place. Infidelity. Missing the other person. Worrying that the relationship won't last.

But before you decide to throw in the towel, here are some tips to manage a long distance relationship.

Define your expectations. If you're looking to keep it casual, "we're dating other people"- type of thing, okay. Tell the other that. If you're working toward marriage, that's a very different ball-game. Who will move where? When? How long will you be separated?

Keep the lines of communication on a schedule. No one likes to live on a scheduled timetable, but in a long distance relationship, scheduling time to talk is key. Schedule time every day (or every other day, depending) to talk, text, chat, IM, or email the other person. Be ready for the spike in your phone bill and use free services like Skype to talk to one another. Communication is very important when living far apart.

Put visits on the calendar. Sure, you can keep relationships going through communication alone, but physical touch is important, too. Visits will show your significant other that you still care about him or her, no matter how far apart you are. Try to make this visits special -- plan some fun things to do while together, so your relationship continues to grow.

Trust each other. It's hard as can be to not let that little green monster (jealousy) sneak it's way into your life when your significant other is off with other people. But in order to make it work, you're going to have to trust that he or she means what he or she says and wants to be with you and you alone.

Any tips for long distance relationships?


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nonmember avatar stephJen

Invest in a good vibrator

Kwiat2 Kwiat2

The first one is so important. I spent more than a year long distance with a guy, and though we were exclusive, it took me a year to realize he didn't "believe in marriage" and was moving to the US, just not the coast I was on. And he still wanted to keep on going! But he had no intention of moving me with him, or moving with me, etc. If I had known that earlier I could've been enjoying myself. Long distance is not fun, and you're usually glamorizing the relationship because it's not 24/7. Oh, and he ended marrying down the road anyway. Ha!

britt... brittnie24

well me and my man were married before we had to live with a long distance relationship. He was i the army so he spent 16 moths in iraq. The one thing we learned is it will make you or it will break you. If you can do that you can do anything. In our relationship I would say it made us stronger. We didnt have other things like sex, family, and friends in our way. Use that time to really know that person. I think later you will find it was good for you. You will find he will love you for you. Or it will end because it was meet to. miss my hubby more than anything but the feeling i got when i saw him after not being with him for so long... i will never forget ever its was almost worth it.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

Have a plan. Know when you will be together again and where that will be.

jessi... jessicasmom1

Yes! we need to talk always

Weng Cristina Galan-Danao

...it's really very hard. but i trust him and we communicate as often as possible. lately, we had a misunderstanding and i want to straight things out but can't do it my way coz we have diff time zone... thanks for the tips, i know that would be a great help!!!...^_^

nonmember avatar Ayiba tracy

Thanks 4 helping us the long distance lovers.

nonmember avatar relationshipdj

I used to say that I wouldn't date someone that has different area code with me then my girl had to move away for school. I am actually finding long distance relationship to work for us. We were boyfriend/girlfriend before she left now we are engaged to be married.
One key important thing I see that help in our long distance relationship is completely supporting one another. The biggest thing is to be going through something while you are away and your partner is not backing you up. We find it so difficult nowadays for people believe in long distance or difficult for others to cope with it since they don’t know what to do. We even started our own site as part of our way to cope with relationship. Just like this article, I posted things that are similar to these tips that can help and that I have helped me.

nonmember avatar DG

To all those going through LDR. I have been in one for the past SEVEN YEARS with my partner... living across the oceans, and being able to see each other ocne a year only. We have survived so far! We have grown together and have a stronger relationship for it! There is ALWAYS hope... and trust and making time for each other are the most important!!

Tammy Wilkerson

Thank you for this article. I have been dating someone that is 3 hours away. We are going on 3 months. It does help to plan things. And Communication is definetely key!!!

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