5 Ways to Be a Sexier & More Confident Date

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Confidence is one of the sexiest things about a woman. It shows that she has other character traits that men love -- the ability to stand up for herself, empowerment, good looks, and sassiness. Not only that, but confident women embrace their assertiveness over their own sexuality -- and they know what they want.

Confidence is knowing that you're worth a lot and that you have value to add. It's a deep feeling of certainty about who you are and what you stand for.

But dating, especially after a divorce or break-up, can leave women with their confidence shaken to the core. Sometimes being confident is easier said than done.

Here are some tips for being confident while dating.

Remember, comfortable is not the same as confident. To be empowered, you must get in touch with your innermost self and learn to feel certain about who you are and what you stand for. This can pull you squarely out of the "I guess he's good enough" rut and into a relationship you deserve.

Start small. The more confidence you have in a single area of your life (For example: I am excellent at snowboarding), the more it will seep into other areas of your life. It's hard to look at the big picture and say, "I WILL be confident in ALL of these things." So start small, build that confidence.

Fake it until you make it. Sometimes, the very act of approaching a great guy, or making eyes at someone, or taking that first step into dating, can create a cascade effect. The more you do it, the easier it'll become. And the more confident you'll become about doing it again.

Channel your inner diva. If you're feeling like you're blowing a first date, think of your favorite diva and how SHE would react. Pretty soon, that inner diva will be you.

Smile. There's very little sexier than a killer smile. It's your first impression, and it's likely to last a long time.

Do you have any dating confidence-building tips?

 

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nonmember avatar Gonzo

"Channel your inner diva. If you're feeling like you're *blowing a first date*, think of your favorite diva and how SHE would react. Pretty soon, that inner diva will be you."

This could be worded differently lol

vamom08 vamom08

Be honest with yourself !!!

Anne4222 Anne4222

Love and respect yourself. Know what you are worth. Without that you won't be able to even fake it....

nonmember avatar Simpletruth

Absolutely NOTHING will run a guy off faster than acting like a diva. Confidence? Yes...have tons...exude it! Diva....no way. No guy wants a high maintenance, self-absorbed, "princess".

nonmember avatar Cherie

Always walk into a date assuming that he's going to like you!

nonmember avatar Nate Ollie

Becky,

Great post! I definitely agree with these confidence builders, especially starting small, channeling your "inner diva", and smiling. Many people underestimate the effect these have on your self-confidence.

Taking this valuable bit of Confidence 101 a little further, I have 2 cents to throw in about building confidence on dates:

1. Visualize yourself on your date before it takes place. Picture yourself glowing with confidence, pride, and charisma. Imagine your date going just as you would want it to go.
2. On your date, make an effort to live out your visualization from the first step. You will be surprised at how well this works (so long as your visualization wasn't something completely ridiculous).

And as Aunt Becky said in the post, remember to SMILE. This is your most powerful weapon. Use it. :-)

Terry Morgan

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Jason Weberman

The one point I would add is COMMUNICATION. Instead of being in your head, concentrate and listen to what your date is saying. If your date knows you are really listening and responding to what they have to say it will create a stronger bond.

Jason Weberman
www.NorthStarCoaching.com

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